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Old 06-19-2012, 01:13 PM
 
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This has nothing to do with gender. If the roles were reversed, the same would apply. He's a cheap, materialistic jerk. If the he were a she, she'd be a cheap, materialistic jerk.

A woman who expects a man to do "a man's job" and give her money, put a roof over her head, pay for her bills, pay for her vacations, etc. wouldn't she be considered a materialistic goldigging jerk?
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Old 06-19-2012, 01:52 PM
 
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Are we not discussing the dude and his weeping and whining over $20 with the girl he allegedly cares for? Because if we are, he absolutely deserves every nasty adjective.
I think we should all go back to that thread where he got a boner at the beach when some chic with big boobs walked by..lol

@ least that sh-- was funny.
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Old 06-19-2012, 02:38 PM
 
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I think we should all go back to that thread where he got a boner at the beach when some chic with big boobs walked by..lol

@ least that sh-- was funny.

Did someone say boner????
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Old 06-19-2012, 03:42 PM
 
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Originally Posted by jasper12
Exactly. The GF was bringing the entire relationship down, based on her BF not giving her $20 on demand. Wow. What do you think of someone who would do that?! The OP equated the entire relationship on her BF giving her money, whenever she asked for it. He did not give it to her, so she left him. No other reasons except for that. He fully supported her, took her on trips, paid for her rent, all living expenses, except for food, which she was responsible to purchase...and even then, she wanted money from him for something as measly as $20. Wow...who is the "cheap" one?!

Damn woman, well done. /end thread lol

I am still waiting for S...cha to answer me...she has "skipped" my post...
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Old 06-19-2012, 03:48 PM
 
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I am still waiting for S...cha to answer me...she has "skipped" my post...
The post showcased her foolishness. Some people don't have it in them to learn.
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Old 06-21-2012, 09:27 PM
 
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Bf and I decided to out and get some icecream, I also needed to make a stop at chinese grocery store to pick something.

So we went out and at the grocery store I just realized I didn't have my purse with me. So I tured to bf and said oh I forgot my purse. Bf hesitated for a while, but pulled out a 20 dollor bill and gave it to me.

It turns out the store was closed, so I returned to the car, that's when the bf started blaming me of not bringing my own purse, that it's bugged him so much and he really felt uncorfortable. and that he felt used.

Here's the situation:

We've dated 2 years, I moved in with him half year ago. I don't pay rent, but I pay for all of our grocery shopping/pick up food and cook daily. He pays when we occasionally go out or go on trips. we exchange gifts on occasions.

He's income is about 210k a year, mine is 35k.

Just want to hear some input.

OK, my input would be this. The difference in incomes has no bearing on the situation. You would be wise if you figured out who is going to pay for what and stuck to it, before you moved in, but it is too late for that. So, sit down and have a conversation and figure it out now. In the future, if you leave your purse at home, just tell him you left your purse at home and need to borrow $20 for a day or two, and then remember to pay him back. Personally I think your boyfriend is wrong to accuse you of using him. In my opinion, you are a very small person if you make a big deal out of loaning or giving your girl friend $20. To be fair to both parties, expenses of living together should be split down the middle. He should not have to pay more than half (his fair share) because he picked a girl friend who doesn't make as much as he does. He should not have to pay a 'penalty' for dating or living with someone who makes less money.
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Old 06-21-2012, 10:53 PM
 
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A good place to look to in analyzing this situation is courts, and how they determine divisions of property, alimony, child support, etc. when a cohabitation or marriage breaks up. Do they expect the person that makes less to receive less? Do they expect the person that made less to have contributed equally?



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OK, my input would be this. The difference in incomes has no bearing on the situation. You would be wise if you figured out who is going to pay for what and stuck to it, before you moved in, but it is too late for that. So, sit down and have a conversation and figure it out now. In the future, if you leave your purse at home, just tell him you left your purse at home and need to borrow $20 for a day or two, and then remember to pay him back. Personally I think your boyfriend is wrong to accuse you of using him. In my opinion, you are a very small person if you make a big deal out of loaning or giving your girl friend $20. To be fair to both parties, expenses of living together should be split down the middle. He should not have to pay more than half (his fair share) because he picked a girl friend who doesn't make as much as he does. He should not have to pay a 'penalty' for dating or living with someone who makes less money.
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Old 06-22-2012, 03:32 PM
 
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fruitpunch1...I'd look at it like this.....if the shoe was on the other foot, and your "boyfriend" needed 20$..would you hand it over begrudgingly?...like him?....all I can say is if he's got a problem sharing with you, he doesn't sound like much of a man to me.
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Old 06-22-2012, 08:44 PM
 
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I agree with you, purehuman. He sure doesn't sound like much of a man.


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fruitpunch1...I'd look at it like this.....if the shoe was on the other foot, and your "boyfriend" needed 20$..would you hand it over begrudgingly?...like him?....all I can say is if he's got a problem sharing with you, he doesn't sound like much of a man to me.
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Old 06-22-2012, 11:51 PM
 
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fruitpunch1...I'd look at it like this.....if the shoe was on the other foot, and your "boyfriend" needed 20$..would you hand it over begrudgingly?...like him?....all I can say is if he's got a problem sharing with you, he doesn't sound like much of a man to me.

you might want to read the entire thread before posting
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