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This is really not that big of a deal at all, but this is still kind of bothering me. As a guy, we feel a little more "in control" of our social interactions, mingling, etc. when we can somewhat actively gauge interest, AND a womans relationship status. An at least when I misinterpret it can be a bit of a blow, and feel embarrassed.
So, heres what happened recently. This woman, a few years younger than me, that I know from a very active young adult group at my church, I got her number earlier this past week, and she gladly gave it to me.
We've seen each other at social events a few times before, and out interactions have always been great. Always very positive, warm, cheery, etc., etc. I thought she was really cute but, I only decided to get her number this time. What made me think it was a good time to do so, was that in a casual group conversation, she made the comment "dating sucks in LA (where I live) I should probably just move back home (in a more light hearted way).
As a guy, that should be clear indicator that she is available and looking. So, I thought to myself (in a confident way) that I'd be a better catch than what shes seen so far.
So, I ask for her number before the end of the evening, she gives it to me, and agrees that it would be great to hang out this weekend. (I think its good to just hang out in a casual way just once at least, even if a woman wants to bring one of her friends along, before a date-date).
So, I texted her two days later, suggesting what to do and when, then she texts me back, saying that it actually might not be such a good idea, as her boyfriend might not like it.
Can someone please enlighten me as to why a woman would say "dating sucks in the city, I think I might move to a different city" while at the same time having a boyfriend.
I know shes not lying, my interactions with her, always seemed sincere.
Do you think that she said that because here current relationship isn't going all that great for here, looking at other options, but at the same time doesn't want to dump her current boyfriend either?
Maybe she is just speaking in a general, collective sense for all her girlfriends?
I'm scratching my head over this one...why would she even give you her number if she had a boyfriend? Or talk about how dating sucks. If she has a boyfriend she likes, then dating doesn't suck for her. Who knows. Women are weird sometimes. And I say that as a woman.
I'm scratching my head over this one...why would she even give you her number if she had a boyfriend? Or talk about how dating sucks. If she has a boyfriend she likes, then dating doesn't suck for her. Who knows. Women are weird sometimes. And I say that as a woman.
^^ Agreed!!
Did you hear the whole conversation when she stated "dating in the city sucks" or were you not part of the group, therefore didn't hear the whole conversation? Maybe she'd like to hang out with you(friends), but somehow her bf got wind of it and was upset.
Women many times say and act off of their feelings, maybe they had had an arguement and she didn't know if they would make it through it, or she was 2nd guessing the relationship. Maybe she thought ya'll were friends and yet "got wind" of you liking her more....?!?! Who knows....
...or maybe she just had a fight with her BF, maybe even "broke up", and was venting. For that reason was comfy giving her number, but by the time you called her to get together, they had patched things up. Not in her plan, but "how it happened".
Pissed off at BF => going out with you seems like a good idea
Made up with BF => BF wouldn't like that....
Unless you read her wrong, and unless she's a game-player, I'd think it's something innocent (and somewhat careless) like this.
Did you hear the whole conversation when she stated "dating in the city sucks" or were you not part of the group, therefore didn't hear the whole conversation? Maybe she'd like to hang out with you(friends), but somehow her bf got wind of it and was upset.
Women many times say and act off of their feelings, maybe they had had an arguement and she didn't know if they would make it through it, or she was 2nd guessing the relationship. Maybe she thought ya'll were friends and yet "got wind" of you liking her more....?!?! Who knows....
Either way, Better wishes for the next one!!
It was only three of us sitting around, me, her, and another girl/woman shes friends/acquaintances with. But even after she said that to the other woman, she even turns to me, but you're a good guy though (my name).
Granted she is only 25, so yeah maybe she is a little naive. I'm 31.
I'm scratching my head over this one...why would she even give you her number if she had a boyfriend? Or talk about how dating sucks. If she has a boyfriend she likes, then dating doesn't suck for her. Who knows. Women are weird sometimes. And I say that as a woman.
Funny, thing is I texted this back to her, when she told me about the boyfriend. And that was the end of the texting.
Who knows? Maybe she wanted to see if guys are still interested in her? If you're in a happy and healthy relationship there's no need to talk about how dating sucks or at least say, "it sucked until I found my bf...took a while to find a good guy"..something like that and definitely not give out your phone #. There's something shady about a man or woman who doesn't let on that they're married or in a relationship.
Game. Move on. Women like this make the rest of us look bad.
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