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There's someone out there for any/everyone...very few people are undesirable to the population in it's entirety. One person's trash is another's treasure.
I hate this saying, it's such bull****. What happens if the one and only out there for someone lives halfway across the world? Not everyone has someone waiting for them.
You're always the girl in the group that guys rarely notice or approach. it's always the other women around you at work or school who guys socialize with and try to get to know.
How do you keep a positive mind and not always feel down and depressed? There are other women who are like that and I see that they are not phased. They still keep a good attitude. but it does get to me, and makes me depressed and not want to go to work the next day. It affects my work performance, I have a hard time concentrating because I feel that i have no value if I can't attract men as often as other women.
Honestly ...
No matter what your face looks like, if you get a slim or athletic body and throw on makeup and a tight dress and are under 30, you will be the type of women that a number of men will want. I've known a number of men who are all about BODY and will totally deal with an unattractive face.
And to be perfectly honest, if you are black or Latina, you don't even have to get the weight down. Just throw on the dress and go out. Not to be racist but I've seen tons of heavier women get mobbed at the few times I've been to those clubs.
If you found one guy who truly appreciated you and because he truly did, you could just tell, feel it, and know it, would you be satisfied or would you still need attention from other men when you saw others getting attention?
You're always the girl in the group that guys rarely notice or approach. it's always the other women around you at work or school who guys socialize with and try to get to know.
How do you keep a positive mind and not always feel down and depressed? There are other women who are like that and I see that they are not phased. They still keep a good attitude. but it does get to me, and makes me depressed and not want to go to work the next day. It affects my work performance, I have a hard time concentrating because I feel that i have no value if I can't attract men as often as other women.
LOL, it's a numbers game anyway. There isn't a woman that men don't want eventually.
Oh, and even if you're overweight there ARE men that ARE attracted to big women. They are called FA's (fat admirers) and believe me, they are out there...(I used to be obese).
2. There is no single one man out there that you need to find. You can find love with many men. But all you need is one, if love is your aim.
3. You have to recognize your worth first. At this point you may draw danger, because abusive men prey on women with low self esteem. Try working on emotional health first. Then you'll be able to see clearly all those men who love dark women.
And by then you'll learn how to choose a man who's good for you. Don't settle for just any kind of man for the sake of having attention.
If you picked a rotten peach, would you force yourself to eat it just because you picked it? Would you keep a peach full of worms because you'd be scared you'll never find another peach?
Of course not! You'd just be more careful picking the next peach. You see the tree is full of peaches. Surely there's got to be some good peaches on the tree right?
Same thing with men. There's plenty. You just need to learn how to pick em.
they can have preferences for anything and everything under the sun and then justify why they're 'valid' preferences -- so continue to not feel bad about this one.....
Only on CityData could you find a woman who's afraid to get laid giving love advice to a woman who's afraid to look in the mirror! Gotta love it!
Last edited by Capt. Dan; 06-15-2012 at 09:00 AM..
Reason: wrong word
This is really bad advice to give to a self-proclaimed unattractive girl. Men are visual. If she isn't attractive she will either be rejected or just used for sex (and then rejected). She needs to work on her looks and gaining some confidence then more men will approach her.
It sounds like good advice to me because it's better than what she's doing now, which is passively sitting on her butt waiting for someone to change her life for her. Passively waiting for men to come to you is fine if you're an attractive woman and you get lots of attention.
Only on CityData could you find a woman who's afraid to get laid giving love advice to a woman who's afraid to look in the mirror! Gotta love it!
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