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I am super busy between work, networking events for work, traveling to an expo for work most of next week, baseball on weekends, guitar lessons, etc. Wednesday is like the only free night I have for like 2 weeks.
But yet you're able to find the time to write "joke" posts here.
UPDATE: So as I was driving back to the city after a networking event last night I called the other two women who had given their numbers via email on OKCupid and left them both voicemails. Then about 30 min later THIS girl called me back. We chatted a little bit and she wanted to know if we were still on for Wednesday night. Since I was still open I said sure and we made a date to grab drinks tomorrow night after work.
Not sure I would've done this. She was kind of rude and presumptuous to think that calling 2 days late and 1 day before a tentative date would be okay. I probably would've said something like, "Well, since I never heard back from you on Sunday, I made other plans." Then I'd have made other plans.
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Only problem is: I don't feel the same way I used to when I dated. I don't get excited to go out with someone, I don't really care as much about what they have to say, I don't feel as enthusiastic when I'm on the date with them. It's just like "eh, whatever" to me. I think my last breakup ruined me of that, I don't know how I can ever get excited for dating again. I go out not really caring what happens, whether they like me and want a relationship, just want to hook up, or they don't want to go out again....I'm truly indifferent to what happens. I don't know if this is good or bad.
I completely understand this. In the last 2 years, my husband died, and when I started dating,I got my heart stomped on. I enjoy the company of men while dating but clearly am just not that interested in a relationship. I feel like I'm in "cruise" mode and am just dating for the entertainment value of it. I don't see anything really wrong with it, unless you lead on the women who DO want a relationship. You and I are still sort of emotionally burnt out. I hope that will change and that we can find our "spark" again.
"Hey. Never heard from you, so I made other plans. Hope to catch you later."
That's all you need to say. Because no one should be left hanging. What's more, it has the additional benefit that the other person knows not to keep you on ice.
Not sure I would've done this. She was kind of rude and presumptuous to think that calling 2 days late and 1 day before a tentative date would be okay. I probably would've said something like, "Well, since I never heard back from you on Sunday, I made other plans." Then I'd have made other plans.
I understand this, but I also don't see how I'm losing anything by being a little flexible. It's all about opportunities to meet people. I can't hurt myself by accepting a date just because she didn't call back on the day she said she would. As someone who is pretty busy himself and not as "into" the dating thing as I used to be I don't see the harm in just going with it. If I had something better to do that night then by all means I would've done it, but it just so happened I didn't have other options so I accepted the date I had tentatively scheduled. Nothing lost.
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I completely understand this. In the last 2 years, my husband died, and when I started dating,I got my heart stomped on. I enjoy the company of men while dating but clearly am just not that interested in a relationship. I feel like I'm in "cruise" mode and am just dating for the entertainment value of it. I don't see anything really wrong with it, unless you lead on the women who DO want a relationship. You and I are still sort of emotionally burnt out. I hope that will change and that we can find our "spark" again.
I'm totally in the same place. It's like I'm unphased by anything negative about dating anymore and I feel like nothing can even bother me again, let alone hurt me. Nothing could come close to the pain I just went through, hit emotional rock botton, and spent a year rebuilding my life and my happiness. What does bother me a little is that I feel like I've lost something, and that my ex took it away from me. I had that excitement, I had that desire to make someone happy, and I really wanted to be with someone and share my life with them. Now it's like I don't really care what happens. I don't get excite at all for it. I don't find myself in a desire mode to meet someone and start a family. I'm almost in a state where I'm just along for the ride and if the train stops I'll just get off and walk it....and I'm totally okay with walking at my own pace and taking my own path. Maybe I'm still hurt, I am still a little bitter toward the ex, I think I really know what it means to hate someone after everything she put me through, but it doesn't affect me on a daily basis. It just makes me numb to everything.
Dude, people break up. They don't owe you a lifetime committment after a few months of dating. I think you just like creating drama for yourself.
I never said she owed me anything.....dude.
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