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As someone who is heavily into weight training and bodybuilding, I have an interest in strong women and those who are also heavy lifters. Unfortunately, it's hard to meet women like that outside of the gym (and maybe contests, though based on my experience they tend to stay within their own groups, plus, talking to someone when they are heavily carb and water-depleted is not a good idea at all.) This forum gave me great advice on how to approach someone at the gym.
Yesterday night, I noticed this absolutely jacked woman in the powerlifting area doing perfectly executed deadlifts and squats. Now, I don't go to a gym that produces a ton of powerlifters and bodybuilders, especially female ones, so that was quite the awesome sight. Since she was so focused on her lifting, I didn't want to interrupt her at all (even during the breaks between sets) until she was done. I went on with my workout, and when she was done and cooling down, I approached her, and asked her if she competed. She said yes, and I then said that her routine was extremely impressive and that it's awesome to see women who are dedicated to lifting heavy. I then asked her about her routine, specifically, as to how effective doing deadlifts and squats on the same workout are (I don't do them on the same day.) She responded by saying:
"Look, I am not interested in talking training with anyone, and even if I was, you are way to small for me to even consider your company. My ex was a 230 lb powerlifter, and even that was in the small-end of guys that I am attracted to. Try gaining some size before talking to female lifters next time."
What...the...hell? Ok, I know I am not the biggest guy in the weight room, but I am decently big and strong for my size (5'6", 173 lbs and just performed a max bench of 325 two weeks ago.) I actually felt proud of the gains I was making, but damn, that freaking hurt. Not just from the rejection itself, but if my accomplishments aren't really accomplishments at all. I know I'll probably never break that 200 lb mark, but damnit I train extremely hard, and I don't "use" anything except protein.
Ugh, sorry, I know I shouldn't taken that personally, but that hurt a lot.
Dont dwell on it. Other women will come to you eventually. In the mean time try to get over it, if I was you I would call an escort put on a condom and bang her out till kingdom come, that's what I would do. But generally when a girl rejects me I head back to the gym and power lift my culo off. Seriously I do.
it actually isn't. gyms used to be much more social in the past, but over the years gyms have become places that people go in to just tune out, focus on their workouts and then leave. i've been hitting the gym regularly now, at least 3 - 4 times a week, for 12+ yrs and in that entire time i can recall barely 1 or 2 instances where i ever saw a guy even try to pick up a chic.
most women show up a few minutes before class and leave almost as quickly when it's over; those on the cardio machines have their headphones on (and even if they didn't, would you really want to carry on a convo with someone in the middle of intense cardio? i'd imagine that would be just plain rude). weight lifting areas are usually separate from the cardio/class areas, and these are overwhelmingly used by men. the few women i see there are often working out with their boyfriends anyway.
Very true. Even sometimes when Women stop to talk to me or when I try to critique a womans workout they just wanna grab their iphones or blackberries plug the earphones in their ears and start working out again.
That woman sounds like on rude *****. You did nothing wrong and have nothing to recover from. Be thankful you did not get involved with someone that selfish and unpleasant.
Here's the harsh truth. Some woman are really not attracted to shorter guys. Yet, many of the coolest babe magnets around are short, Tom Cruise, Al Pacino, Robert DeNiro, Mel Gibson (except for the racist crap), Matt Damon, etc.etc. You don't have to be tall to rock the women. There are many incredibly hot ones that are not hung up on height, so don't waste your time feeling bad because of someone with serious issues.
That said, sorry you went through that slam. If it helps, I hate that c@#R! Now, suck it up dude!
Last edited by Fiddlehead; 08-10-2012 at 07:40 PM..
As someone who is heavily into weight training and bodybuilding, I have an interest in strong women and those who are also heavy lifters. Unfortunately, it's hard to meet women like that outside of the gym (and maybe contests, though based on my experience they tend to stay within their own groups, plus, talking to someone when they are heavily carb and water-depleted is not a good idea at all.) This forum gave me great advice on how to approach someone at the gym.
Yesterday night, I noticed this absolutely jacked woman in the powerlifting area doing perfectly executed deadlifts and squats. Now, I don't go to a gym that produces a ton of powerlifters and bodybuilders, especially female ones, so that was quite the awesome sight. Since she was so focused on her lifting, I didn't want to interrupt her at all (even during the breaks between sets) until she was done. I went on with my workout, and when she was done and cooling down, I approached her, and asked her if she competed. She said yes, and I then said that her routine was extremely impressive and that it's awesome to see women who are dedicated to lifting heavy. I then asked her about her routine, specifically, as to how effective doing deadlifts and squats on the same workout are (I don't do them on the same day.) She responded by saying:
"Look, I am not interested in talking training with anyone, and even if I was, you are way to small for me to even consider your company. My ex was a 230 lb powerlifter, and even that was in the small-end of guys that I am attracted to. Try gaining some size before talking to female lifters next time."
What...the...hell? Ok, I know I am not the biggest guy in the weight room, but I am decently big and strong for my size (5'6", 173 lbs and just performed a max bench of 325 two weeks ago.) I actually felt proud of the gains I was making, but damn, that freaking hurt. Not just from the rejection itself, but if my accomplishments aren't really accomplishments at all. I know I'll probably never break that 200 lb mark, but damnit I train extremely hard, and I don't "use" anything except protein.
Ugh, sorry, I know I shouldn't taken that personally, but that hurt a lot.
To hell with her! What she said, says more about her than it does you.
^^^^ Sure! return childishness by being even more childish...that always makes you seem/feel better...geesh!
How about just manning up and accepting that not everyone wants or likes you...deal with it!
It's not that. It's about handing a dose of reality to a really rotten person. Many people who go through life acting like this haven't been "decked," so they could certainly use it.
^^^^ Sure! return childishness by being even more childish...that always makes you seem/feel better...geesh!
How about just manning up and accepting that not everyone wants or likes you...deal with it!
Repubocrat, is that you?
I have the feeling you've rubbed people the wrong way and don't want to be called out on it.
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