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Old 06-24-2012, 07:49 PM
 
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people go to the gym to workout. Interrupting a workout is rude. Workouts end when you leave the building.
Clearly you frequent a completely different type of gym than the ones I and some of the other members around the forum have been to.
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Old 06-24-2012, 07:49 PM
 
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Because it's a normal reaction to be rude to someone who is being rude to you.
You're not gonna get very far in life with that attitude, bud.

Be a better person and let it roll off your back. Think of yourself being made of Teflon in situations such as this.
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Old 06-24-2012, 07:51 PM
 
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Clearly you frequent a completely different type of gym than the ones I've been to.
Outside a freshman university co-Ed gym, I have no idea where people get dressed up to work out. Every gym has social events, if you want to meet.

It is terrible etiquette to disrupt workouts, as bad as not wiping sweat off seats.

Brah got a lesson in gym etiquette, and it could have been worse.
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Old 06-24-2012, 08:00 PM
 
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Casual chat is expected in the gyms I've been to. There are natural pauses in the workout, as I explained earlier. It's natural for newbies at a gym to ask one of the regulars how to use a certain machine. These are laid-back places where people don't wall themselves off from each other. It sounds like some gyms are part of the trend toward people isolating themselves from each other more and more. Instead of talking to live humans, they do their routines, then go home to email friends (rather than visit in person) or post on forums, lol! Sad.
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Old 06-24-2012, 08:17 PM
 
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Casual chat is expected in the gyms I've been to. There are natural pauses in the workout, as I explained earlier. It's natural for newbies at a gym to ask one of the regulars how to use a certain machine. These are laid-back places where people don't wall themselves off from each other. It sounds like some gyms are part of the trend toward people isolating themselves from each other more and more. Instead of talking to live humans, they do their routines, then go home to email friends (rather than visit in person) or post on forums, lol! Sad.
Chit chat and asking for spots are acceptable. Trying to get dates is not.

Like I've said, every gym has a social night at least once a month. Go and be social.
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Old 06-24-2012, 08:37 PM
 
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You don't ask for dates outright, you get to know a person over time. Like the OP said on the "timid and shy guys" thread. Actually, the most forward guys in the gyms I've been to have always been the staff.
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Old 06-24-2012, 08:46 PM
 
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Chit chat and asking for spots are acceptable. Trying to get dates is not.

Like I've said, every gym has a social night at least once a month. Go and be social.
Cwamjn, you didn't answer my question. If I am attracted to women who share in the same athletic activity that I am into, where else if not the gym can I find them? Our gym doesn't do "social nights".

Also, I don't go to the gym to get "dates." I go to workout, but if I can find a person who also shares in that interest alongside me, I would love to meet someone there. I don't do bars and clubs.
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Old 06-24-2012, 08:57 PM
 
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Cwamjn, you didn't answer my question. If I am attracted to women who share in the same athletic activity that I am into, where else if not the gym can I find them? Our gym doesn't do "social nights".

Also, I don't go to the gym to get "dates." I go to workout, but if I can find a person who also shares in that interest alongside me, I would love to meet someone there. I don't do bars and clubs.
This is a normal expectation, OP. I've never known a gym to have social nights. Maybe those are the high-end ones that do that.

Sorry you got treated rudely. Well, abusively is more like it. Just blow it off and move on.
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Old 06-24-2012, 09:19 PM
 
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Casual chat is expected in the gyms I've been to. There are natural pauses in the workout, as I explained earlier. It's natural for newbies at a gym to ask one of the regulars how to use a certain machine. These are laid-back places where people don't wall themselves off from each other. It sounds like some gyms are part of the trend toward people isolating themselves from each other more and more. Instead of talking to live humans, they do their routines, then go home to email friends (rather than visit in person) or post on forums, lol! Sad.

Where do you come up with this? If you are serious about training, you don't have time for chitchat. That doesn't make you a hermit; it makes you serious about training. For these people, the gym is not the club.

Haven't you heard of women who say that their workout time is the only time that they have for themselves? What's wrong with zoning out to focus on a goal? What's wrong with a stressed out office worker letting off steam before they go home to their families? What's sad about that?

What is the basis for the assumptions that you have made?

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Old 06-24-2012, 09:37 PM
 
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Some people view the gym as a sort of club (and some gyms encourage that).
Some people view the gym as a boot camp (and some gyms encourage that).

Move on, people.
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