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Specially abused children, it wasnt their fault for what happened to them and saying to someone your are damage because of that, its really hurtful.
Life's not fair hun. If someone was born was 3 feet tall, it wasn't their fault but at the same time you shouldn't date them as a pity date. Some people have issues, they don't need me, they need some help to fix their issues.
Its not a pity date , if you didnt know what happened to her in her childhood, how would you know. She could be great and maybe after a while she would maybe opened up to you and trust you with this. So you would stand up and tell her sorry you are damage and leave???
Its not a pity date , if you didnt know what happened to her in her childhood, how would you know. She could be great and maybe after a while she would maybe opened up to you and trust you with this. So you would stand up and tell her sorry you are damage and leave???
they aren't interested in any women that require time and effort, God forbid. they want women who offer themselves up quickly and with as little hassle on their end, as possible. if you aren't interested in making their life easier, they move on to the next woman.
I just cant imagine that when a guy is dating or in a relationship with a woman for a longer time and she would tell him that he would leave her. Some woman wouldnt tell that to their partner ever or after a longer time.
I just cant imagine that when a guy is dating or in a relationship with a woman for a longer time and she would tell him that he would leave her. Some woman wouldnt tell that to their partner ever or after a longer time.
Yes, sonia I agree some women don't tell anyone these things, but they swear they can single them out based on their problems in life, throughout the thread they been saying to avoid this type and that type. Some of em might already be with the "dreaded type"
I don't know it really depends. You just have to know what you can deal with and what you can. Mod cut: gross generalization; gender bashing. It is just a matter or finding one that isn't so bad to you.
I've been through the whole sticking with a girl even though she has clear issues thing.. it didn't work out well. That being said, sometimes it can work out. My mom went through crap when she was a kid with her family, she's one of the nicest people you will meet. My ex on the other hand turned out to be a mentally abusive jerk.
OP, you can be as picky or as care free as you want when you're dating. No one on this board can tell you if you're being a bad guy or not. Too many people on this board spend their time here judging others and just taking out their anger here. Do what's best for yourself and just wait til you meet someone you really like. Don't get ahead of yourself and LOOK for issues though.
I'm not sure who you were addressing here but it sounds like the women? The term "damaged goods" sounds extremely judgmental, but when it's a rape or domestic abuse, just who do they think is damaging us? Some guys here like the OP and a few others sound like in the old days when a woman would get raped and then couldn't marry anyone respectable b/c she wasn't a virgin any more.
Yep, that is how it sounds to me as well.
The women I know that have been raped closely guard that part of their lives...they certainly aren't running around telling potential suitors about it.
I'd bet some of us have moms and grandmothers(or even male relatives) who have been the victims of rape, and they would never tell anyone.
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