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I got a buddy that is doing something I think is wrong. He is seeing a girl(both in their 40's) that has a boyfriend of 2 yrs. The girl and bf only see each other on weekends due to locations, and my buddy is see'n her every once in a while during the week. Started out as just friends, have a drink type thing. buddy has been divorced for about a yr and is just getting back in the game. Now he kissed her and i guess she kissed back. nothing else, he says.
I think its wrong, but i have never seen him so happy. he is "bright" now, if ya know what i mean. He says i just don't understand. i guess they get along great. she is a good person, but i just don't get this. but im out of the loop as i'm just now getting a divorce. i don't know all the dang rules, don't want to i got kids to raise.
i want my buddy happy, but don't want him hurt or do something that God would not look well upon.
If hes your bud and its something you think about, just mention it to him and tell him it bothers you. She may be looking for an upgrade (as often seems to be the case) or to get out of a LDR, which isnt working for her. I wouldnt get too involved other than just a simple conversation. Its his life and if thats something that makes him happy, you should let him roll with it.
Not really your position to say anything. I think if it were my friend I would say that I don't really agree with what he's doing and that he's setting himself up for trouble... but I wouldn't say more than that. He's your friend, you aren't anyone to judge him past that.
Your friend must consider whether he's being used!
There's probably a 3rd guy in the picture somewhere
I don't see how the OP's friend could be so happy in a situation like that though. It's one thing to just have a **** buddy or something, but to be so happy over a situation like this is a bit alarming.
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Not really your position to say anything. I think if it were my friend I would say that I don't really agree with what he's doing and that he's setting himself up for trouble... but I wouldn't say more than that. He's your friend, you aren't anyone to judge him past that.
I got a buddy that is doing something I think is wrong. He is seeing a girl(both in their 40's) that has a boyfriend of 2 yrs. The girl and bf only see each other on weekends due to locations, and my buddy is see'n her every once in a while during the week. Started out as just friends, have a drink type thing. buddy has been divorced for about a yr and is just getting back in the game. Now he kissed her and i guess she kissed back. nothing else, he says.
I think its wrong, but i have never seen him so happy. he is "bright" now, if ya know what i mean. He says i just don't understand. i guess they get along great. she is a good person, but i just don't get this. but im out of the loop as i'm just now getting a divorce. i don't know all the dang rules, don't want to i got kids to raise.
i want my buddy happy, but don't want him hurt or do something that God would not look well upon.
Do ya support him, or tell him to quit?
BTW, its been going on for about 3-4 weeks now.
They are both single in the sense that neither is married to someone else. It certainly isn't fair to the weekend boyfriend if they don't have an agreement to see other people. And someone is going to end up getting hurt. On the other hand someone could end up very happy. That's life I guess. So I'm going to withhold being my judgmental self.
She is unmarried. The weekend boyfriend has not seen fit to commit to this woman, so she is free in God's eyes to take up with someone else if she wants to. But she needs to be honest with all parties.
She is unmarried. The weekend boyfriend has not seen fit to commit to this woman, so she is free in God's eyes to take up with someone else if she wants to. But she needs to be honest with all parties.
Excellent summary. And all other parties should just butt out.
What we don't know is the status of the weekend relationship. It could be unravelling, and she could be looking for a way out. As far as you know, she could be on the verge of breaking up with the weekend guy, and is just as happy with the weekday guy as he is with her. We don't have all the facts. It could be that the new guy does have all the facts.
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