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Sometimes I feel like I'll never meet the right guy. My mom says it's because I'm always looking for specific criteria and that I should just let it happen and forget the criteria. I don't think my list is outrageous though:
1)financially secure and educated
2)not uptight (Knows how to have fun and experience new adventures)
3) taller than 5'11 (this is my only physical characteristic on the list)
4)He can hold his own with my affluent snobby family (He doesn't have to come from an affluent family, he should just know how to behave or willing to learn how to socialize at fancy events and family functions...I know I shouldn't care what my family thinks, but I do, my family is so judgmental)
5)Someone I can absolutely be honest with and he with me.
I keep wanting to believe that when I meet the right guy I will just know, but sometimes it's hard to believe that. My question is, when do you start reducing your list and "settle", if ever. I''m 23 now, but is there an age where I should stop being picky and settle?
I'm 5'2, which is probably why I'm attracted to taller men (plus I wear sky high heels most of the time). Out of all the guys that have asked me out, only 2 or so were under 5'll, so it seems I am attracted to taller guys and they are attracted to me. It' the only physical trait. I could care less about their eye, hair, skin color, hair length, etc...
Would you date a guy who fit all your criteria except he was 5'10"? lol
Yes, I would. I guess height is not a criteria, more of a preference. But my other criteria I don't think I would give up. Besides the height thing, would you consider the other criterias to be unreasonable?
I don't have the height or stuffy family requirement (my family is crazy and I love it) and I haven't had much luck. But you're still young, you're petite and sound like your standards are fairly simple so you shouldn't have too much issue.
At least your Mom is kind of behind you...both my parents are convinced I'll be alone forever.
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Yes, I would. I guess height is not a criteria, more of a preference. But my other criteria I don't think I would give up. Besides the height thing, would you consider the other criterias to be unreasonable?
No, I don't think so. Although how specific are you getting when you mean educated? Do you mean some kind of certificate, a degree, or a master's degree? Whatever, though, I guess it's still your preference.
If I were your Mr. Right - someone who ticked all the other boxes - I wouldn't really desire to spend time with people who were 'very judgemental' at least no more than I had to. If your Mr. Right preferred to keep this to a minimum, would that be a problem?
I don't have the height or stuffy family requirement (my family is crazy and I love it) and I haven't had much luck. But you're still young, you're petite and sound like your standards are fairly simple so you shouldn't have too much issue.
At least your Mom is kind of behind you...both my parents are convinced I'll be alone forever.
I think I'm still young too as most of my friends are still not in a serious relationship, however on Facebook there are so many of my high school friends that are married and some even have a kid already!
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Originally Posted by Trimac20
No, I don't think so. Although how specific are you getting when you mean educated? Do you mean some kind of certificate, a degree, or a master's degree? Whatever, though, I guess it's still your preference.
If I were your Mr. Right - someone who ticked all the other boxes - I wouldn't really desire to spend time with people who were 'very judgemental' at least no more than I had to. If your Mr. Right preferred to keep this to a minimum, would that be a problem?
Educated as in he can hold an intellectual conversation (I come from a family of doctors, lawyers, and engineers). I don't believe that everyone is cut out for college, but I do believe that everyone should show ambition to do something meaningful after high school for financial security.
Trust me even I don't want to spend that much time with my snobby family. The whole entire family gets together only a few times a year and that's enough for me. I act like I care about what everyone is wearing and the latest gossip and accept any backhanded complement, and then I'm out of there. However I do spend a lot of time with my direct family and so I would like him to be at least respectful towards them even if he doesn't agree (sometimes I don't agree, but I'm still respectful towards my parents and won't deliberately be mean to them).
1)financially secure and educated
2)not uptight (Knows how to have fun and experience new adventures)
3) taller than 5'11 (this is my only physical characteristic on the list)
4)He can hold his own with my affluent snobby family (He doesn't have to come from an affluent family, he should just know how to behave or willing to learn how to socialize at fancy events and family functions...I know I shouldn't care what my family thinks, but I do, my family is so judgmental)
5)Someone I can absolutely be honest with and he with me.
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