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Old 07-02-2012, 07:21 AM
 
Location: Australia
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Originally Posted by carra View Post
Well I have read about other online experiments such as this, and results were similar. Maybe it should not matter, but being hot does matter quite a bit. Most women who say otherwise are deluding themselves or just want to be socially correct.
All that involves is gym work and even a guy with a ugly face can still bulk up and get attention from the ladies. OH BTW I am 5.7 and yes I have slept with women who are taller then me so if I can do it anyone can do it, heck I have lost track of how many girls I have slept with and I wish I acted this way much sooner in my life, it depresses me thinking of all the women that I missed out when I was a nice guy.

All you need to do is turn off your "niceness" and it becomes easy, now I would never hit a women or anything but I would not show them any respect until they earn my respect but it is hard to respect a girl who lets me treat her like an object and still have sex with me. Why would I date a girl who is so easy to talk in to bed, if its easy for me it will be easy for the next bad boy she meets when we are dating.

Dont get me wrong I would love to be the nice guy again but if that means sitting on the sidelines while the women of my age all play on the field with the bad boys then bugger that!


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Originally Posted by BradPiff View Post
The majority of men start out as nice guys, then overtime they simply find out what works
True and this is the reason why I opened up this thread because if I can convince one "nice guy" out there to change his ways then its worth it, I just wish someone convinced me when I was brainwashed to believe that most young women want a nice guy.

 
Old 07-02-2012, 07:23 AM
 
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I wonder what will happen to the OP when he hits 30, and suddenly all he wants is a smart, kind, sensible woman, with no baggage or crazy, to love him and want to be a family with him?

Hint, they will all be happily married to guys who figured out very early how to find a good woman and treat her as an equal partner, not as a strange, frightening species.

This OP is another one of those who will end up alone at 65 in a one-bedroom condo in Boca with a hairpiece, a bank account ravaged by alimony and a Viagra prescription he rarely gets to use.
 
Old 07-02-2012, 07:24 AM
 
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Originally Posted by cpg35223 View Post
When are you guys going to realize that self-described Nice Guys are typically boring, overly self-conscious, passive aggressive dweebs? They're not nice at all. They simply lack the basic testicles to act on their desires.
Maybe we'll realize it when women admit that they often use "no testicles" as an excuse, when they happen to not like perfectly backboned nice guys


PD: And for the record, xzane, over the last years I lost over 20 pounds and gained some muscle. But sometimes it isn't that simple as just "getting fitter".
 
Old 07-02-2012, 07:24 AM
 
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Here is the thing...

Women want to know you are going to protect them when you end up in a dark alley. Nice guys are questionable.

Leave some mysteriousness to your profile. Make them think, "I don't know. I can't figure him out but it's sexy."

Make statements but do it tastefully. More like, "That outfit is making me think naughty thoughts." Instead of, "I wanna bang you all night Baby!!"
 
Old 07-02-2012, 07:35 AM
 
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I'm a 29 year old single male who has dated a ton in the last 6 years. I've had bad dates, great dates, good relationships, bad relationships, and heartbreak.

What really woke me up from my heartbreak: stop caring about how to get these women or please them. How do you do this? Take a new approach to your life.

Here's what I do: I think of my life and what I want and what will make me happy. I do all of this WITHOUT factoring in meeting a woman, getting married, or having a family.

It's near impossible to plan your life as it is, but if you start making decisions for yourself that make YOU and ONLY YOU happy without factoring in a woman, dating, a possible relationship, getting married in 5-10 years...you'll find life gets a lot better.

Now forgetting about women or a future with one is no easy task. For a long time I wanted that soooo badly, to meet a nice girl to treat well, marry, and have kids with. It took a major major heartbreak for me to get to the point where I am today, which is where I don't really care as much about having that.

I see the whole relationship or marriage aspect to life as bonus. Live your life without expecting it and just do what you want and have fun....if you meet a girl along the way and it works out then great! If not, you still do things that already make you happy and you're living a fulfilling life anyways.
 
Old 07-02-2012, 07:47 AM
 
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Originally Posted by cdubs3201 View Post
I'm a 29 year old single male who has dated a ton in the last 6 years. I've had bad dates, great dates, good relationships, bad relationships, and heartbreak.

What really woke me up from my heartbreak: stop caring about how to get these women or please them. How do you do this? Take a new approach to your life.

Here's what I do: I think of my life and what I want and what will make me happy. I do all of this WITHOUT factoring in meeting a woman, getting married, or having a family.

It's near impossible to plan your life as it is, but if you start making decisions for yourself that make YOU and ONLY YOU happy without factoring in a woman, dating, a possible relationship, getting married in 5-10 years...you'll find life gets a lot better.

Now forgetting about women or a future with one is no easy task. For a long time I wanted that soooo badly, to meet a nice girl to treat well, marry, and have kids with. It took a major major heartbreak for me to get to the point where I am today, which is where I don't really care as much about having that.

I see the whole relationship or marriage aspect to life as bonus. Live your life without expecting it and just do what you want and have fun....if you meet a girl along the way and it works out then great! If not, you still do things that already make you happy and you're living a fulfilling life anyways.
Not bad advice, but the OP's idea of a future with a woman probably doesn't even stretch to breakfast tomorrow.
 
Old 07-02-2012, 07:48 AM
 
Location: The cupboard under the sink
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Oh, dear.

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Originally Posted by xzane View Post
if I can convince one "nice guy" out there to change his ways then its worth it
It gets worse !

It's not April 1, is it ?

(checks date).............
 
Old 07-02-2012, 07:51 AM
 
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Originally Posted by bobman View Post
Oh, dear.



It gets worse !

It's not April 1, is it ?

(checks date).............
I am not sure why the OP is so anxious to have other men jump on the bad boy train with him. There are only a limited number of "hot" bimbos with low self-esteem in the club, and surely he would not want to increase his competition.

Oh, and I just had to quote this from the OP, because it is just a classic of the genre.

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now I would never hit a women or anything but I would not show them any respect until they earn my respect but it is hard to respect a girl who lets me treat her like an object and still have sex with me.
 
Old 07-02-2012, 07:55 AM
 
Location: In The Thin Air
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Originally Posted by D. Scott View Post
Well this thread has opened my eyes! I am a "nice guy." But after reading this, I am going to shave my head, get some cool tats, leather pants and walk like Vince McMahon. Thanks!

I wrote in other threads that one can be nice but not a pushover, Why all these how to be a bada*ss threads over the last week?
Don't forget the silver ball sack hanging from the tow hitch on your lifted truck.
 
Old 07-02-2012, 07:59 AM
 
Location: The cupboard under the sink
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Maybe the bad boys club have adopted the word "respect" into their street talk and it means something else now.

By my definition, the OP doesn't even appear to have any respect for himself, never mind anyone else !!
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Originally Posted by zentropa View Post
Oh, and I just had to quote this from the OP, because it is just a classic of the genre.
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