Why Won't This Work?

[Garfunkle524]

Originally Posted by Slanderous

Don't drink? Or just have a beer an hour and you should be good to drive. Either way, you don't need to drink to socialize at a bar.

I know a couple people who go to bars and just get a Coke. That way they're not the weird guy/girl that goes to a bar to socialize but doesn't order anything. Many bars will offer it free because they like the idea of having enough DD's to get all the drunk people out at the end of the night.

My rule is 1 beer per hour for 2 hours (max 2 beers total). Or, 1 beer per hour for 3 hours if a meal was eaten (3 beers max). If you're feeling a buzz, don't get in your car. PERIOD. Order some food and play some pool.

[JrzDefector]

Originally Posted by Cchandler

I must have a bad personality.

No, seriously - why don't you have friends you can socialize with? There can be many reasons. I didn't come out of my shell until I was in my early 20s and until then, you could probably count my close friends on one hand. Way different from my 30s.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Cchandler

I must have a bad personality.

Well, SOMETHING is going on....what is it?

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Cchandler

Everyone else told me this is how you go about it.

Who is "everyone else"? They told you wrong. Join weekend activity groups (hiking, kayaking, whatever), try some volunteer work here and there, check out meet-up groups in your area, talk to women in the checkout line at the grocery store (light banter). Joining groups and volunteering give you a chance to get to know people first, so you're not asking out complete strangers. You're able to find out if you have anything in common with them, and check out their personality before you're stuck on a date with someone who's insufferably boring or annoying.

You said you went up to a pool table and asked the women out? ALL of them? All at once, or in serial order? That might be why they laughed at you. Do you have hobbies? Pursue those, you never know who you'll meet along the way. If your town has neighborhood soccer or volleyball groups in the park, join one of those. Quite a few couples meet that way. That is how it's done.