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So I was talking to one of my patients one day. He is an older gentleman, in his sixties, I would say. He brings his son in to the dr as he has had some pretty bad medical issues. Also, his dr is a nurse in the practice. He is divorced from his first wife and they are still friends, and his second wife passed away. Currently he is dating a woman from church.
I told him I was giving my two weeks and he was sad to see me go. He was asking me if I had a man in my life and if I was happy. In general, I am a very happy person, or at least try to be.
I am very drawn to this man as he just breathes happiness and is nicer than the day is long. He is a very dark skinned older black man who comes in very nicely dressed and wears a happy face pin on his shirt. He always makes me smile.
He asked me if I loved my self, and I told him I thought I did. After that he told me that no man could ever love me truly unless I loved myself first. I believe him. It was not until I loved myself and accepted myself for who I am that I was every truly loved. I am loved for who I am, faults and all.
He was in again before I left and he took my hands in his own. He told me he would miss my smile and that I was a beautiful person. He brought me to tears, because I was going to miss him and I wondered if he knew what a beautiful person he was.
He released my hands and he walked away. I found in my hands his smiley face pin. I wore it for the rest of my time there at the office. Now it hangs in my jeep reminded me of his each day.
Moderators, this is about relationships, and it is about romantic relationships. I do not think that if we cannot accept and love ourselves we will never be truly loved. I believe the words he spoke to be truth.
What a beautiful story, thank you so much for sharing.
This lovely man is right. I don't know why our society ignores our elders, they've "been there done that" and really have so much to offer us.
Self love is the hardest love to find, IMO. I can love someone else effortlessly, but myself...not so much. It's not to be confused with vanity nor ego which abounds in todays world. It's something much simpler, kinder, and less obvious.
What a beautiful story, thank you so much for sharing.
This lovely man is right. I don't know why our society ignores our elders, they've "been there done that" and really have so much to offer us.
Self love is the hardest love to find, IMO. I can love someone else effortlessly, but myself...not so much. It's not to be confused with vanity nor ego which abounds in todays world. It's something much simpler, kinder, and less obvious.
It's true.... I don't think we can ever be truly accepted unless we are able to accept our own selves. You are right, also, it has nothing to do with vanity or ego at all. While some people may have too much of that, others have none.
As a younger person, I was in an emotionally abusive marriage and made to feel like I was not a good person. Like I was ugly and good for nothing.
I had to come out of that and learn that I am a good person, beautiful inside and out. I had to learn many things and I have been through a few relationships that just did not work out...
That was very beautiful and I appreciate you making this thread
You are welcome. Give it a little thought. I am hoping that you are able to get through what you are dealing with and one day maybe be able to talk to someone who may be going through something of the like. Let them know it is ok to be who they are and there is someone out there to love the person they are, for who they are.
Not for anything else but that.
Once we can love ourselves and embrace ourselves for the people we are, life just smiles.
Lovely story.
Those kind of stories make me happy.
As to the topic, I kind of disagree.
I don't think self love is the answer. Self RESPECT is.
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