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So, I mentioned in a few threads that this weekend I was going to try to be a 'mean girl' and just see what happened. So, I put on my big girl jeans (as well as a TON of makeup...yick) and went out on the town.
I got 6 phone numbers. SIX FREAKING PHONE NUMBERS. I actually got in an argument with some guy, poured a gin and tonic on him and he asked me out. He also bought me another gin and tonic.
I tripped someone and laughed at him, he gave me a hug and asked if I wanted to hang out sometime.
I told some guy his car sounded lame and that maybe he should be hitting on men instead of women (it hurt me to say this, to be honest ) and rolled my eyes. No smile, dead serious. He laughed and asked if I wanted to go for a drive sometime.
I TOLD 3 guys to buy me drinks. One said no, the others did with no hesitation. I didn't even say thank you, got my drink and walked away. One of them followed me around asking me out until I left.
A few other things happened, but those were the biggies.
Maybe I should just start acting mean to get dates. I had one of them write his number on a cocktail napkin, I looked at it, said I changed my mind and tore it up. He proceeded to try and give me his business card.
Wow. I'm just stunned. It took a lot out of me to act this way (I'm never mean unless provoked) so I don't plan on doing it again, but it still shocked me.
But hey, at least I can't say I've never been hit on anymore
I'm glad that at least some people are speaking out against this rather than finding humour in it. It's definitely not cool to treat others that way, all for some childish "experiment". What did you prove, other than the fact that you have some serious growing up to do?
I'm glad that at least some people are speaking out against this rather than finding humour in it. It's definitely not cool to treat others that way, all for some childish "experiment". What did you prove, other than the fact that you have some serious growing up to do?
I was curious, that's all.
Call it childish if you'd like, but there are people who act like this on a regular basis and obviously there are many people who react positively to it.
I'm the absolute opposite to the person I was pretending to be that night. I was HOPING to have negativity thrown at me all night, I was HOPING to be rejected left and right and be called all kinds of names and even be shunned.
Obviously I wasn't.
I've only gone out a few times here in MA and so far it's been a COMPLETELY different experience.
Call it childish if you'd like, but there are people who act like this on a regular basis and obviously there are many people who react positively to it.
I'm the absolute opposite to the person I was pretending to be that night. I was HOPING to have negativity thrown at me all night, I was HOPING to be rejected left and right and be called all kinds of names and even be shunned.
Obviously I wasn't.
I've only gone out a few times here in MA and so far it's been a COMPLETELY different experience.
Agree with you on childish if you know it's not you.
Agree with you even more about your experiment as reality for some people.
I dealt with the A$$holiest of A$$holes and enough Queen Bs who get a kick out of being nasty. Choppin' em down to my size is sometimes amusing. Sensing a person's breaking point is like being a predator smelling blood. It the person really deserves it, I'll break them down. Most of the time I'll just let it be.
Guys do like a bit of a challenge, at least I know my friends do. I know I can speak truthfully and say that games will be played right back if you start with that stuff. Always best to be straight up but with subtle intentions if you just want to rock and roll or want more.
It's perfectly OK to make the terrain a little bit difficult to get to your ultimate finish line. Worth and effort does mean something, we know that. What some ladies forget to do is put the checkpoints on the course, so we guys take a detour to the next pitstop. Gas, restrooms, vacancy, suds, whisky, jukebox, bar mistress, ladies present, all things aside, don't leave us on the open road when it's getting dark if you know what's good for ya.
BTW, where in left field did you get this idea to do such as stunt. Wanting to be politely abused at that?
So, I mentioned in a few threads that this weekend I was going to try to be a 'mean girl' and just see what happened. So, I put on my big girl jeans (as well as a TON of makeup...yick) and went out on the town.
I got 6 phone numbers. SIX FREAKING PHONE NUMBERS. I actually got in an argument with some guy, poured a gin and tonic on him and he asked me out. He also bought me another gin and tonic.
I tripped someone and laughed at him, he gave me a hug and asked if I wanted to hang out sometime.
I told some guy his car sounded lame and that maybe he should be hitting on men instead of women (it hurt me to say this, to be honest ) and rolled my eyes. No smile, dead serious. He laughed and asked if I wanted to go for a drive sometime.
I TOLD 3 guys to buy me drinks. One said no, the others did with no hesitation. I didn't even say thank you, got my drink and walked away. One of them followed me around asking me out until I left.
A few other things happened, but those were the biggies.
Maybe I should just start acting mean to get dates. I had one of them write his number on a cocktail napkin, I looked at it, said I changed my mind and tore it up. He proceeded to try and give me his business card.
Wow. I'm just stunned. It took a lot out of me to act this way (I'm never mean unless provoked) so I don't plan on doing it again, but it still shocked me.
But hey, at least I can't say I've never been hit on anymore
Seriously. iF you are doing an experiment you are crossing all kinds of ethical lines. Forget the moral lines.
A mature adult would want anyone who didn't want their "real" self.
If you have that much time to invest in nonsense...use it more wisely...Go volunteer at a Children's hospital, or a Senior home, or help organizations that do good works. Then you'll find out was being valued for yourself means, it may help satisfy your need for acceptance...and You'll never settle for less.
Call it childish if you'd like, but there are people who act like this on a regular basis and obviously there are many people who react positively to it.
I'm the absolute opposite to the person I was pretending to be that night. I was HOPING to have negativity thrown at me all night, I was HOPING to be rejected left and right and be called all kinds of names and even be shunned.
Obviously I wasn't.
I've only gone out a few times here in MA and so far it's been a COMPLETELY different experience.
It still doesn't make it right. It was childish, you know this.
What if I were to engage in a "reckless driver experiment"? I've always been curious as to whether driving like a maniac actually gets you from point A to point B quicker. Perhaps I should go out and try driving like a lunatic to see, speeding, running red lights, weaving in/out. Never mind the fact that my actions may cause an accident (not that you did anything that could be considering deadly of course).
I also bet you any money that the guys you "pulled" may have been jerks in real life, attracted to jerkish behaviour in women.
Next time you have time to spare, use it in a positive manner as Jan suggested for example. You'll feel much better about yourself.
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) and rolled my eyes. No smile, dead serious. He laughed and asked if I wanted to go for a drive sometime.
