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Do you think it's common to look down upon men just because they tend to have high sex drives, as being a male generally entails?
I sometimes hear women lambast men for being 'horny bastards', 'animals', just a bunch of 'sleazebags'.etc etc. I mean not that it's not true, but do a lot of women get a high out of taking advantage of the male sex drive/the natural pursuit of the punani?
It's common to equate having a healthy sex drive with being animalistic; I forgot who said it, but recently someone on CD basically equated being promiscuous with having a mental issue...I always thought that was just being a normal human being? Men are criticized as being unable to reign in their sexual urges, natural cheaters.etc by a few women.
I think society is still quite prudish in this sense but it's changing. It's more acceptable for women to express their drive than before, although it still seems 'men' as a group are criticized for being just a bunch of hornbags. For a long time women were viewed as either respectably asexual, or basically harlots, with no room in between. Men probably secretly wanted a nun in public and a scarlet woman in the bedroom. I think there's still an attitude that the sex drive is a bestial, carnal drive that needs to be tamed: not entirely inaccurate, but it seems that men in particular are criticized for doing what comes naturally to them.
I guess I mean this idea that men are somehow less evolved or sophisticated just because they have a high sex drive.
There is NOTHING wrong with a healthy sex drive - it's what you DO with it that makes you a winner or loser, a real man or a player, someone you look down on or up to
Carnal lust can be controlled and managed, even by a man...I have also personally struggled with reigning in lust, much like any other man -- and I have largely succeeded
Part of the trick to controlling it, IMO as a man and what I have done myself in the past when faced with desire, is to consciously think about love (independently of the physical desire component)...gentle, affectionate, compassionate, and caring romantic love, the kind that only a beloved sweetheart can give you. For example, when a beloved says to you "I love you", and means it, genuinely and truly, and holds you adoringly and most tenderly, in their arms. When you think about it in those kinds of direct terms (i.e., true love vs. a mere bedding or roll in the hay), the difference is stark enough and readily apparent, at least for me myself anyway. And I want true love, and everything that goes with it (a loving wife, and a future family of my own), *before* I want the physical desire intimacy part, not after. I want a woman's love, heart, and affection "forever", not just for "tonight".
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 07-08-2012 at 09:04 PM..
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