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Originally Posted by reddoor54
Ever had a situation where you made a bad impression on a date, and how did you rebound from that? Was the person you were with judgmental or open-minded about talking some more? On the flip side, did you ever get a negative impression of someone - what made you write them off completely versus not taking it too seriously?
The extremity of the bad impression can vary, so I think being late versus saying something racist are on two different levels. I've had situations where I probably gave off a negative impression (and I liked the people - so it wasn't intentional!) but didn't realize it until after the fact (no, I didn't say anything politically charged.... there was one situation where I got a bit negative because I've just had a lot of stressful things going on in my life right now-and my date knew that).
In those cases, especially when it's a first date, I really wish people didn't judge so harshly. Nobody's perfect and in my opinion, people shouldn't be so quick to write off someone based on a 2 to 3 hour conversation (unless it's VERY clear that you both have very different value sets or something). But that definitely wasn't the case for me.
Any situations like this or thoughts on the matter?
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Bolded part above...I agree 100%!
IMO, people should be just a lil more forgiving, gentle, and easy-going, on a first date...like OP said, don't be so quick to judge so harshly!
Cut them a lil slack; the truth is that they may really like you a lot, but are just really nervous and/or shy, and thus might make an innocent or minor gaffe or accidentally mess up, just b/c they're (paradoxically) scared of making a bad impression
And yes, I really do believe in giving people "second chances"
We're all human...no one is perfect; everyone has made mistakes before, and will again -- mistakes, even truly unintended ones, are pretty much inevitable. So why not be a lil more forgiving and compassionate, than critical?