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In a relationship there shouldn't be a "protector role", if there is what is the role of the other person?
In a relationship you both take different "roles" (not liking that term much by the way) as the situation requires. You can't assume that things are always going to occur in a pre-ordained manner, things need to be reacted to given the circumstances.
I'm a foot taller and 100lb heavier than my wife and there have been situations over the years that she has taken the "protector role" (shudder) and been able to diffuse in a way i wouldn't have been able to. Like i said, you have to take a situation as it comes, there are no "roles"..
Oh and i didn't answer the poll, the answers don't fit my opinion.
In a relationship there shouldn't be a "protector role", if there is what is the role of the other person?
In a relationship you both take different "roles" (not liking that term much by the way) as the situation requires. You can't assume that things are always going to occur in a pre-ordained manner, things need to be reacted to given the circumstances.
I'm a foot taller and 100lb heavier than my wife and there have been situations over the years that she has taken the "protector role" (shudder) and been able to diffuse in a way i wouldn't have been able to. Like i said, you have to take a situation as it comes, there are no "roles"..
Oh and i didn't answer the poll, the answers don't fit my opinion.
Well said, Baldrick.
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The fact of the matter is that the "protector" role is natural with me, very much on autopilot. It has nothing to do with believing a woman is weak; in fact, physically strong women are a MAJOR turn-on for me. Keep a woman looking like a woman but pack some muscle onto her or make her big and strong... I'd hit that so hard it would take the once and future king of England to pull me out!
For me, the reason I go into autopilot for that role is because I do not want anyone for whom I care coming to harm. I understand that they don't want me coming to harm either, and hopefully we'd never have to worry about that kind of thing. If we did... well, the fact is that I've got a fair amount of training in my background and situations requiring "protection" are highly time-critical. I wouldn't be standing around discussing the pros and cons, seeing whose turn it was.
Frankly, JJ's suggestion of the tag-team made Little Sasquatch rear his eager head. A woman with whom I could spar AND totally trust in a critical situation to handle her end of things in synch with me handling mine? KA-SCHWWIIIIIIIIIINNNNNNNNNNNGGGGGG!!!!!!!!! Blue steel that a cat couldn't scratch!
I've always dated extremely protective men (note, that I say "protective" and not "possessive"). They have all been guys that, if riled up, would be described as anywhere from "scary" to "crap-your-pants terrifying."
I'm much smaller than all of them, but I'm also very protective by nature. At some point in our relationships, some of them made it a point to tell me that it felt really good to know that I was watching their backs. Not that I could really do anything that effective, but the thought was what counted, apparently. I think even tough guys like to know that someone cares enough to look out for them.
But isn't watching each other's backs what relationships are about? The other person is your backup.
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I've always dated extremely protective men (note, that I say "protective" and not "possessive"). They have all been guys that, if riled up, would be described as anywhere from "scary" to "crap-your-pants terrifying."
I'm much smaller than all of them, but I'm also very protective by nature. At some point in our relationships, some of them made it a point to tell me that it felt really good to know that I was watching their backs. Not that I could really do anything that effective, but the thought was what counted, apparently. I think even tough guys like to know that someone cares enough to look out for them.
But isn't watching each other's backs what relationships are about? The other person is your backup.
Definitely. If we were out late at night, and some guy grabbed my girlfriend I'd definitely try to do what I could to defend her: although there would be mitigating circumstances like if he had a knife, or a gun or he looked like Arnie. If it was just a regular guy, I'd probably try something, even though I'd get beaten in a fight. If the tables were turned, I'd expect her to at least get help, if not do whatever she could to help me out. If she just stood around doing nothing, too afraid to do anything, it would show she was cowardly and/or didn't care enough about me. But then again, how much protective instinct do we have for perfect strangers?
I've always dated extremely protective men (note, that I say "protective" and not "possessive"). They have all been guys that, if riled up, would be described as anywhere from "scary" to "crap-your-pants terrifying."
I'm much smaller than all of them, but I'm also very protective by nature. At some point in our relationships, some of them made it a point to tell me that it felt really good to know that I was watching their backs. Not that I could really do anything that effective, but the thought was what counted, apparently. I think even tough guys like to know that someone cares enough to look out for them.
But isn't watching each other's backs what relationships are about? The other person is your backup.
We'd be a team. She's the advanced black belt, but I have training too and we've trained together enough to work together if attacked. Most likely, I'd make the attacker focus on me first as the obvious problem, and he'd be totally blindsided as my petite wife takes him out.
No because when s*** hits The fan shes going to expect you to protect her. That happens in a lot of different scenarios with women.
Lol at her going to go check downstairs if you both think someone broke in
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