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I've always dated extremely protective men (note, that I say "protective" and not "possessive"). They have all been guys that, if riled up, would be described as anywhere from "scary" to "crap-your-pants terrifying."
I'm much smaller than all of them, but I'm also very protective by nature. At some point in our relationships, some of them made it a point to tell me that it felt really good to know that I was watching their backs. Not that I could really do anything that effective, but the thought was what counted, apparently. I think even tough guys like to know that someone cares enough to look out for them.
But isn't watching each other's backs what relationships are about? The other person is your backup.
Welcome to Hell!... Pleased to meet you! Not only will you crap in your pants, you'll pee them too. Keep your Rottie on a leash until you need him. When you do, you won't have to worry. Everything is going to be alright. I'd rather she not see it either. You're worth more to me behind locked doors. Get down on the floor flat, cover your ears and keep quiet. Don't open that goddamn door no matter what you see and hear. Why?? Because I love her!
How can any self respecting man even ask this as a serious question?
This is true. Sure we want our ladies to be able to fend for themselves while we are away. In that respect, she needs me to train her and teach her some things. I can't be with her 24/7/365...it just won't happen. When she is with me, I'd rather she stay out of it and my way and remain OK/SAFE/ALIVE for her and our family. Our kids don't need to lose both of us. I never lose and don't really need the help anyway. She's safest behind a locked door laying flat on the ground with her ears covered.
Welcome to Hell!... Pleased to meet you! Not only will you crap in your pants, you'll pee them too. Keep your Rottie on a leash until you need him. When you do, you won't have to worry. Everything is going to be alright. I'd rather she not see it either. You're worth more to me behind locked doors. Get down on the floor flat, cover your ears and keep quiet. Don't open that goddamn door no matter what you see and hear. Why?? Because I love her!
By protective, I mean that they are watchful. Their brawling days were way beyond them by the time I started dating any of them. One had ridden with a biker gang in his extreme youth and had seen his mother abused when he was very young. He tended to be hypervigilant anytime any man raised his voice to a woman. Another was a sniper/combat vet - talk about hypervigilant. I was never smothered, if that's what you're implying. I've never dated macho or controlling men, just highly competent men. For example, when there were gunshots at a car show, everyone in the crowd started to go towards them, like sheep. My boyfriend at the time grabbed my arm and walked quickly in the opposite direction. Turns out they were just backfires, but there were a whole lot of suburban idiots who were heading to those sounds like moths to a flame because they thought it was a shooting.
But yeah, the guys that fall into my "scary former boyfriends" category tended to make people who would be aggressors and bullies think twice (unless said aggressors/bullies were drunk). When a heavily scarred and tattooed man gently reminds you that it's not the cashier's fault the store didn't have your requested item in stock, you tend to stop screaming at the cashier.
By protective, I mean that they are watchful. Their brawling days were way beyond them by the time I started dating any of them. One had ridden with a biker gang in his extreme youth and had seen his mother abused when he was very young. He tended to be hypervigilant anytime any man raised his voice to a woman. Another was a sniper/combat vet - talk about hypervigilant. I was never smothered, if that's what you're implying. I've never dated macho or controlling men, just highly competent men. For example, when there were gunshots at a car show, everyone in the crowd started to go towards them, like sheep. My boyfriend at the time grabbed my arm and walked quickly in the opposite direction. Turns out they were just backfires, but there were a whole lot of suburban idiots who were heading to those sounds like moths to a flame because they thought it was a shooting.
But yeah, the guys that fall into my "scary former boyfriends" category tended to make people who would be aggressors and bullies think twice (unless said aggressors/bullies were drunk). When a heavily scarred and tattooed man gently reminds you that it's not the cashier's fault the store didn't have your requested item in stock, you tend to stop screaming at the cashier.
Scary? Do you really want to see scary? Men trained to neutralize a threat of life or bodily harm. You go straight towards it and face it head to head. You've trained and practiced these threats daily/weekly/monthy. The key word is "neutralize". He won't be coming back. Such acts are not fit for children or a ladies eyes to see if she can help it. Men with little fear who know when and where to react in a split second using a precise and controlled level of violence. You don't want to be on the receiving end, trust us.
ADD: You know you are safe when said men developed muscle memory to do such things. You don't even have to think. You've practiced this over and over and over and over again.
I find larger women creep me out a bit. So I wouldn't get into a relationship; but I would momentarily hope that they find a guy that's either comfortable with their size...or slightly larger than them.
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Men trained to neutralize a threat of life or bodily harm. You go straight towards it and face it head to head. You've trained and practiced these threats daily/weekly/monthy. The key word is "neutralize". He won't be coming back. Such acts are not fit for children or a ladies eyes to see if she can help it. Men with little fear who know when and where to react in a split second using a precise and controlled level of violence. You don't want to be on the receiving end, trust us.
