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So everyone agrees that no matter how capable she is, how good she is at defending herself, she should never try to protect him?
Well, let's just say that's up for debate. If you are talking about a scratcher, or a hair puller, or a biter......NO!!! Now if she was someone say named Jessie? F$$$ YEAH....OOH-RAH!
If the woman I'm dating is physically stronger, or ballsier than I am or something, sure I wouldn't mind if she saved me from getting the crap beat outta me. I would have a huge issue with just standing by and doing nothing, I'd prefer to be at least helping kick some ass. From what I've noticed about the women I'm around, though, this is very unlikely- I'm not sure if it's an ingrained psychological thing or whatever, but the one or two times something like that has happened I've been the one to take charge (and it was expected of me.)
I don't usually get into confrontations, though- verbal or otherwise. I'm prone to just walking away before being provoked to the point of fisticuffs. If I were jumped by a few people, though, it'd be different- I'd either want someone to help or hope to remember to draw...
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If the woman I'm dating is physically stronger, or ballsier than I am or something, sure I wouldn't mind if she saved me from getting the crap beat outta me. I would have a huge issue with just standing by and doing nothing, I'd prefer to be at least helping kick some ass. From what I've noticed about the women I'm around, though, this is very unlikely- I'm not sure if it's an ingrained psychological thing or whatever, but the one or two times something like that has happened I've been the one to take charge (and it was expected of me.)
I don't usually get into confrontations, though- verbal or otherwise. I'm prone to just walking away before being provoked to the point of fisticuffs. If I were jumped by a few people, though, it'd be different- I'd either want someone to help or hope to remember to draw...
No, I would probably not helplessly, but I wouldn't feel emasculated if she felt she was better qualified to take charge. If she wanted to keep me safe because she felt she could better deal with the threat (and if she could) sure, why not?
Maybe it's somewhat ingrained, maybe it's due to the idea of chivalry again. I suppose the idea of allowing your SO to sacrifice himself while not even wanting to risk getting hurt shows you don't really care that much about them.
No, I would probably not helplessly, but I wouldn't feel emasculated if she felt she was better qualified to take charge. If she wanted to keep me safe because she felt she could better deal with the threat (and if she could) sure, why not?
Maybe it's somewhat ingrained, maybe it's due to the idea of chivalry again. I suppose the idea of allowing your SO to sacrifice himself while not even wanting to risk getting hurt shows you don't really care that much about them.
IMO, I trained my spouce to fight when I'm not around or away. If she is shopping by herself or home by herself type thing. If I'm there or with her too, I would want her to use my training that I taught her to evade and protect herself and the kids while I deal with the threat. If they make it through me, then do her thing. She's worth more to me protecting herself and the kids, so I don't have to. I can deal with the threat. FWIW guys, you sure don't want your wife to be the only one without a chair when the music stops. That means get down...get the f$$$ down and stay there. Your chances of being hit are greatly reduced.
I think every decent person should at least learn how to defend themselves...there are a lot of predators out there, it would be a better world if all the good people could be able to fight off the sickos when they strike. I fully support women learning any kind of martial art or self defense or whatever, it's a fantastic idea.
I have yet to find a man around here who would send his wife first. "Wake up honey...did you hear that window break?" "You hear the neighbors dog barking?" "Oh s***, you can hear boot heels crunching in the broken glass." "You go first honey". Let me ask this, would any of you really want to go first? Really?? Nah, no you don't.
Okay. didn't I just say that?
Either he's the man or he's not. And if he's not, that means I am -- which is not going to work.
Luckily for me I live alone, so if someone breaks in, I will not have to argue with some man about "equal" rights to get beat up by another man (pretty sure it's going to be one).
Either he's the man or he's not. And if he's not, that means I am -- which is not going to work.
Luckily for me I live alone, so if someone breaks in, I will not have to argue with some man about "equal" rights to get beat up by another man (pretty sure it's going to be one).
IMO gender roles (boxes) are stupid. Everyone is equally capable of playing the "protector" role when faced with an opportunity that presents some type of threat.
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