If a woman was physically bigger/stronger in a relationship, should she assume the protector role? (dating, women)

[Trimac20]

This is an interesting one. I don't know if many people even still think in terms of being the 'protector', but I'm sure in cases where a woman was in danger, say being attacked by a thug, I'm guessing most times the man would assume the protector role. Interesting, whether a woman seems to step in to help out her man seems to depend more on the individual. Some women expect him to be man enough to do it on his own, while other women baby him if he gets a scraped knee. Nonetheless, I've heard some women prefer big, strong men because they feel 'protected' so it's obviously still a thing.

So if the opposite was the case: if a man were to date a woman who was physically stronger than him (which happens from time to time), or a lady who knew martial arts or something, what would you think if she was really protective of him and took on that role? I mean some men wouldn't take her seriously anyway, or 'wouldn't hit a woman', and I'm sure MANY people would make fun of them both for it, but just as a silly question, would it see it as more 'natural' than the man just taking on the protective role because he's a man?

I mean the reason why males tend to be the protectors/defenders is because they are stronger in general, not simply because they have a pair of balls. Some might argue more physically aggressive, but that's besides the point. So if this was NOT the case, there shouldn't be a reason for that too.

I'll make this a double question. How many men would date a woman who, if he was being bashed helplessly and the woman could do something, just stood there and watched on, or shrieked helplessly?

[Slanderous]

Maybe.

[Ruth4Truth]

Just because a woman is bigger, doesn't mean she's stronger. It's a very rare women who could be stronger than any man. I've had guy friends who were 5' tall, or under. I'm 5'7 1/2. I'm no match for them. This is basic physiology.

If a woman knew martial arts, she'd protect herself in an emergency, and use that advantage to get away while the guy dealt with the problem. Unless the guy had no skills whatsoever. In that case the couple might try to talk their way out of an emergency. It's been done. If a guy is with a woman who has major defense skills, he'd probably be secure enough in his masculinity to not feel bad at all if she spontaneously dealt with a threat, and then they both escaped together. This may be difficult for some people to understand, but there are guys who are relaxed about their masculinity and don't need to go around proving something.

[SameOne]

I do, it's ALWAYS me!! I don't care if she is 6' 5" and 280. I'll still WIN FIRST!

[Rhenzanite]

Why not team up and tag team the thug?

I'm decently strong, but not as strong as most men, even with my height. I couldn't care less if the guy I'm with is stronger than me.

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

Just because a woman is bigger, doesn't mean she's stronger. It's a very rare women who could be stronger than any man. I've had guy friends who were 5' tall, or under. I'm 5'7 1/2. I'm no match for them. This is basic physiology.

If a woman knew martial arts, she'd protect herself in an emergency, and use that advantage to get away while the guy dealt with the problem. Unless the guy had no skills whatsoever. In that case the couple might try to talk their way out of an emergency. It's been done. If a guy is with a woman who has major defense skills, he'd probably be secure enough in his masculinity to not feel bad at all if she spontaneously dealt with a threat, and then they both escaped together. This may be difficult for some people to understand, but there are guys who are relaxed about their masculinity and don't need to go around proving something.

You're right, males have more muscle mass per body weight than women, but I'm talking about women who actually are stronger than their men - they may be female bodybuilders, or just very big/muscled, I guess they are the exceptions but they do exist. I ask this because I saw something on some talk show - I forgot which ones, and I can't seem to find the video on youtube again - about this small, shrimpy guy - maybe 5'4", who liked dating very big, tall women (6'2"+) because he liked to feel 'protected.' The crowd booed him, which shows society's disapproval of men like this. They are seen as cowards/wimps in society.

[capitol]

This thread is basically a JetJockey callout. I do wonder how real tall women can have relationships with guys much smaller than them. How do they respect the small guy if they could probably beat him up?

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by JetJockey

Why not team up and tag team the thug?

I'm decently strong, but not as strong as most men, even with my height. I couldn't care less if the guy I'm with is stronger than me.

I remember when I was 14 and this girl challenged me to an arm wrestle, and beat me...I copped a bit of humiliation from it lol. I guess puberty gives boys more muscle strength, while women get more fat (i.e. curves) to suit their biological roles.

Judging from your pic, I'm sure you could give me a run for my money. I'm pretty weak, lol.

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by capitol

This thread is basically a JetJockey callout. I do wonder how real tall women can have relationships with guys much smaller than them. How do they respect the small guy if they could probably beat him up?

Seriously? Respect has nothing to do with who can beat the tar out of whom, cripes.

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by capitol

This thread is basically a JetJockey callout. I do wonder how real tall women can have relationships with guys much smaller than them. How do they respect the small guy if they could probably beat him up?

Thankfully it does exist. Not ALL relationships are based on powerplays.