Is experiencing 'love' a bad idea for me? I already feel pain. It hurts. (girls, friend)
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So, is being friends with this guy a HUGE "no-no"?
Yes. Look at how he's treating his girlfriend by interacting with you in such a manner, not to mention how inappropriate it is for him to be getting physical with a coworker.
That is not the kind of person I'd want as a "friend".
I'm in my early 20's. I've never had a true, serious relationship. I'm still a virgin and consider myself to be emotionally distant. One thing that I have always known about myself is that I am petrified of relationships, especially romantically connected relationships.
Well, I met a boy. He has a girlfriend who he says he loves VERY much, yet they've been dating for 1.5 years and at this point are constantly fighting. I met this guy at work and we have since known eachother for about three months. He constantly hugs me, picks me up and talks to me like he cares. He texts me and tells me that he is excited to work with me. I look in his eyes and feel my heart hurt.
Of course, me being a pessimist I found myself doubting his affection and figuring it out as a convenience for him. He has made advances towards me before, he's never inappropriately touched me but he has said that I am "gorgeous" or "hot". I ignored him because I don't like to be talked to like that.
He always talked about coming over to my place after work and finally I allowed him to and he stood me up. It hurt. Badly!
How do I not take his flirtatious actions as serious when he knows how to emotionally and mentally engage me. Why does it hurt so much and I am not even going out with him. What is wrong with me?
sorry but you're going to run into nothing but problems with men, being that way. I don't know how to say things except to say them outright. Unless you are more physically open to them (the ones you like back), they aren't going to want anything to do with you. Sorry. They will always move on to someone that is more reciprocal towards their physical needs, period.
people are going to say i'm being negative again and don't know what I'm talking about.
Last edited by Doll Eyes; 07-11-2012 at 10:18 AM..
The OP may not be meant for serious relationships. Not everybody is. People who fight all the time can still be in Love, but Love is not a cure all when you are not compatible with someone. No sense in following your heart if it leads you too abuse.
Love leaves both people usually feeling out of place. I would never get involved with anyone who is currently in a relationship. if you do, remember that you may be this girlfriend one day, who he constantly fights with and he will do to you what he's doing to her.
So, is being friends with this guy a HUGE "no-no"?
It doesn't sound like he wants to be your friend. He may not know what he wants but he is putting his own interests ahead of both you and his girlfriend. A friend would not stand you up or play with your emotions like that.
I'm in my early 20's. I've never had a true, serious relationship. I'm still a virgin and consider myself to be emotionally distant. One thing that I have always known about myself is that I am petrified of relationships, especially romantically connected relationships.
Well, I met a boy. He has a girlfriend who he says he loves VERY much, yet they've been dating for 1.5 years and at this point are constantly fighting. I met this guy at work and we have since known eachother for about three months. He constantly hugs me, picks me up and talks to me like he cares. He texts me and tells me that he is excited to work with me. I look in his eyes and feel my heart hurt.
Of course, me being a pessimist I found myself doubting his affection and figuring it out as a convenience for him. He has made advances towards me before, he's never inappropriately touched me but he has said that I am "gorgeous" or "hot". I ignored him because I don't like to be talked to like that.
He always talked about coming over to my place after work and finally I allowed him to and he stood me up. It hurt. Badly!
How do I not take his flirtatious actions as serious when he knows how to emotionally and mentally engage me. Why does it hurt so much and I am not even going out with him. What is wrong with me?
Wow you sound too much like me, we could be long lost sisters or something. I'd behave the same way as you did in your situation.
"When somebody loves you it's no good unless she loves you all the way"...
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