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Old 07-13-2012, 02:48 PM
 
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Seeing how some women parade around with their shiny rock, it seems like it is a prize. My theory is that a lot of women determine their worth and value by how big and expensive their ring is in comparison to their friends. It's all about bragging rights basically saying look how much a man loves me but you don't have a ring from a man so you aren't as worthy as me.

This picture sums up the mentality I'm talking about:
Don't get married and you won't have to worry about damaged goods, obesity and women overly concerned about rings.
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Old 07-13-2012, 02:51 PM
 
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Seeing how some women parade around with their shiny rock, it seems like it is a prize. My theory is that a lot of women determine their worth and value by how big and expensive their ring is in comparison to their friends. It's all about bragging rights basically saying look how much a man loves me but you don't have a ring from a man so you aren't as worthy as me.

This picture sums up the mentality I'm talking about:
Internet hyperbole for the point. The only people selling their souls for diamonds are the poor African miners. That ring, like all consumer products in America, will lose its fleeting, monetary lust excitement soon enough. If that's why she's excited. She may actually be excited over the idea that her man just asked. Who knows.
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Old 07-13-2012, 03:06 PM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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My wife and I gained some weight. We also lost it. Maybe what couples need to do is keep dancing, keep playing, keep it going on in the bedroom, eat right, excersize together (Not always possible with kids around.) We are as active as our 6 kids are. I don't see an excuse to be a bad example for our kids. How could I tell them to eat right, excersize, and make good life choices if I am not doing that my self?
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Old 07-13-2012, 03:07 PM
 
Location: Tulsa, OK
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In my case, I gained after getting hit by an ambulance. I was put on oral and injections of steroids to avoid surgery. If you know anything about steroids, the weight gain is unavoidable. I had a spinal fusion in 2001, but now my back is so bad, I can barely walk some days. I am on pain meds, and they have discovered, alot of the pain now, is due to undiagnosed scoilosis. But, I eat healthy, just cannot exercise. So, people should not assume all people who are overweight are gluttons or don't care how they look.
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Old 07-13-2012, 03:16 PM
 
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I don't understand it either. By allowing yourself to get fat out of pure laziness, you're not only doing yourself a favor but the person you supposedly "love" too.

So I guess you could say it's because the vast majority of relationships aren't really based on "love" but putting up with each other for sex and to avoid loneliness.
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Old 07-13-2012, 03:56 PM
 
Location: California
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Part of it is unavoidable. Some people gain weight as they age and no longer have the metabolism of a 22 year old. Some couples go through a "nesting" phase when they start to live together by doing more shopping, cooking, eating in, etc. to bond. Some people get busy with their careers and don't have time to be gym rats or join sports teams like they did when they were obligation free. Some are changed by time and circumstance, things nobody can predict. Some people just have unhappy marriages and one of the results could be "comfort eating".

I'd stay that covers it and not a "I'm married now so I can be fat and lazy" in the bunch. But if you want to believe that go ahead.
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Old 07-13-2012, 04:44 PM
 
Location: Virginia Beach, VA
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Seeing how some women parade around with their shiny rock, it seems like it is a prize. My theory is that a lot of women determine their worth and value by how big and expensive their ring is in comparison to their friends. It's all about bragging rights basically saying look how much a man loves me but you don't have a ring from a man so you aren't as worthy as me.

This picture sums up the mentality I'm talking about:
HAHA! Stats don't lie, and that snapshot tells the whole story behind the photo, right? Here, step into my office. I am selling a nice parcel of land on the border of Canada and Mexico that will suit you perfectly!
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Old 07-13-2012, 08:10 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I noticed lately that most of the middle aged married people I know are overweight. I googled some stats and found out that within the first 5 years of marriage, people gain almost 30 lbs on average. Why do people get lazy after marriage and stop caring about their health? Don't they find it disgusting to obese?
I've never heard of this. I don't know anyone who gained any weight in the first 5 years after marriage. Who comes up with this stuff??
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Old 07-13-2012, 08:56 PM
 
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I've never heard of this. I don't know anyone who gained any weight in the first 5 years after marriage. Who comes up with this stuff??
I swear some people have never taken a stats class and figured out the folly of anecdotal data. Anecdotal evidence is all but completely useless.
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Old 07-13-2012, 09:44 PM
 
Location: Virginia Beach, VA
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I swear some people have never taken a stats class and figured out the folly of anecdotal data. Anecdotal evidence is all but completely useless.
All your talk about how awesome stats are and you have yet to produce a single set of data to support your arguments. I could spin up some data and produce some stats on your posts and conclude that you don't seem all that bright. Any good stats professor will tell you on the first day of class that there exist lies, damn lies, and stats. Stats without context are useless. Stats designed with a certain conclusion in mind are useless. Stats in which the reader has no knowledge of how to interpret are useless.

Show us that you have some good stats, that you know how to read them, and that you know what you are talking about.
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