6 months shy of 30 in LA (date, marry, girl, young)

[iknowftbll]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

It's bizarre. Nobody should be making you play "Beat The Clock". Those aren't the women for you. 4 years is probably pretty realistic. Life is to be enjoyed, it's not a contest. I've heard about dating in LA, women are pretty demanding and perfectionistic. One guy told me he was considering bailing and moving to N. CA, but then he did manage to find a woman. LA's huge, there should be enough variety there. You need to figure out how to tap into a different demographic, or something. Avoid these women who carry timers around with them.

So there you go, Alicant. I think this is sound advice as well. I agree with Ruth to avoid women with timers in their hand. I think I should clarify something, too. The point I was making was more along the lines that you should be open and communicate where things are going. After two years, you would likely have a solid idea, agree? I keep stressing communication. Make sure you are doing it!

"The greatest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place." - George Bernard Shaw.

[Alicant310]

Originally Posted by iknowftbll

So there you go, Alicant. I think this is sound advice as well. I agree with Ruth to avoid women with timers in their hand. I think I should clarify something, too. The point I was making was more along the lines that you should be open and communicate where things are going. After two years, you would likely have a solid idea, agree? I keep stressing communication. Make sure you are doing it!

"The greatest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place." - George Bernard Shaw.

agree. although most women give me an akward look when i say four yrs lmao...maybe i should keep that to myself until the 2nd yr

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Alicant310

agree. although most women give me an akward look when i say four yrs lmao...maybe i should keep that to myself until the 2nd yr

Don't say 4 years! Who says that? Well, I guess in LA everyone has a time frame...? Who can predict these things, jeez! Fuggedaboutit, and just enjoy the process. If you find the right woman, it could be one year. People have been known to fall in love and get married in 6 months. Not that I'd recommend it, but it happens. These things are unpredictable. Do they really ask you your time frame? Just say it's not wise to rush things, and leave it at that.

And I agree, communication is key, on any issue. Your partner should also be a good communicator, and not bottle things up until they explode, or be manipulative or evasive. But you probably knew that.

[mitopcat]

I think I screwed myself. I said to myself, "If I'm not dating or married by 30 to 35 than I'm not going to."

I'm 31 now and no prospects on the horizon. I work with a bunch of guys and the girls there are either older and married or 21. What a great age gap!

However, I do blame myself though. I stay at home during the week and just play games all night long. Weekends are the worst for that. I'm going to push a little harder this next weekend, though. If I don't start getting involved more, I may never do so. Then again, I don't even know where to start

[Rhenzanite]

Originally Posted by mitopcat

I think I screwed myself. I said to myself, "If I'm not dating or married by 30 to 35 than I'm not going to."

I'm 31 now and no prospects on the horizon. I work with a bunch of guys and the girls there are either older and married or 21. What a great age gap!

However, I do blame myself though. I stay at home during the week and just play games all night long. Weekends are the worst for that. I'm going to push a little harder this next weekend, though. If I don't start getting involved more, I may never do so. Then again, I don't even know where to start

I'm 28, unmarried, no children and I feel the same way. Most of my friends have been married for years (or are going through their first divorce or onto their second marriage) and they have started the 'pity look' when they find out I'm STILL not dating anyone.

The funny thing is, I'm out all the time. I hang out with my friends, do activities and have a lot of hobbies and that hasn't helped at all. I'm far better off staying at home and playing games, it's cheaper

[bicoastal10]

What kind of guy gets 4 baby shower invites????? Hmmmm....

[Alicant310]

Originally Posted by bicoastal10

What kind of guy gets 4 baby shower invites????? Hmmmm....

Guys with with friends in marriages or expecting

[srjth]

Idea: How about the never married, childless people on this website get together with each other?!

[imcurious]

Let me get this straight: You are 29 and feel a 25 year-old is too hopelessly immature for you - that you would have to babysit them? A four year age difference is that significant to you? Just based on that fact alone, I would say you are still way to immature to even think about settling down . . .give it another ten years maybe.

[brokencrayola]

I got married at 33, never married, no kids and I married a man that was 34, never married and no children, so it is possible, although less likely the older you get.