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07-13-2012, 07:45 PM
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Location: Somewhere out there...
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
Sounds like an extended adolescence. Funny how some people are like that, while others are already into lucrative careers by mid-20's.
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Yes, most of his friends are single, they work, hang out, party and play video games. They range in age from 26-30, what has happened to the "men" of this generation?? Too much technology, drains their initiative. |
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07-13-2012, 07:49 PM
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Location: State of Transition
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Originally Posted by asitshouldbe
Yes, most of his friends are single, they work, hang out, party and play video games. They range in age from 26-30, what has happened to the "men" of this generation?? Too much technology, drains their initiative.
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Some of the "men" of the next generation older aren't much different. It's still all about video games, or skateboarding, or Star Trek, or something. You and I must be old-fashioned... :-/ |
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07-13-2012, 07:54 PM
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Well video games is an easy explanation, because guys in their 30s are the first generation of arcade popularity and the boom of video games. Before that, there really wasnt any and it wasnt nearly as popular as it was when this generation was growing up. Nostalgia plays a big part in it
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07-13-2012, 08:30 PM
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Originally Posted by asitshouldbe
You sound like my son who has been wasting his time doing nothing, thinking it's great to be single.
I've told him he will have mostly single moms to date if he keeps waiting around to find someone, I have no problem with single moms but he doesn't want a pre made family.
Maybe if he put as much effort into finding a wife as does in video games and hanging out, he would find someone.
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Because there's nothing worse and more pathetic then being single, especially if your a man. 
I'd question the maturity of posters who selfishly try to shove their lifestyles down the throats of others and don't consider how other people feel and those that don't adhere to their rigid beliefs are inferior. Some people like being single and no one is obligated to get married. |
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07-13-2012, 08:37 PM
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Location: Up in the air
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Originally Posted by Ro2113
Because there's nothing worse and more pathetic then being single, especially if your a man.
I'd question the maturity of posters who selfishly try to shove their lifestyles down the throats of others and don't consider how other people feel and those that don't adhere to their rigid beliefs are inferior. Some people like being single and no one is obligated to get married. |
I've always seen it as the opposite. Men who are single are confirmed bachelors, just waiting around for the right girl, and in the meantime they get to date around and do whatever they want. They're MEN, not tied down by women!
Women on the other hand are seen as completely undesirable after a certain age (how many threads have we had that said women are over the hill past the age of 25 or 30?) and that there MUST be something wrong with them if they haven't been scooped up by now.
I've been told that I'm 'leftovers' because I'm not married at 28. All the 'good girls' and 'desirable girls' are already taken at this point. |
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07-13-2012, 09:12 PM
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Location: Virginia Beach, VA
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Originally Posted by observer
I am glad it worked out for you. Generally though, I think 5 months from meeting someone to marriage is way too fast. Most people do not know each other that well to marry. It usually takes longer than that to see ones true color.
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Generally, I agree with you. I would never recommend to others the route that my wife and I took. I believe we are an outlier. Generally I think more time to know each other, learn how the other communicates, etc... the better. As cliche as this sounds, when I met my wife, I just KNEW. There is one thing that I would change if I could. So certain about us was I that I never even proposed.  I know, it's awful. I get the occasional reminder about that too. Please don't judge me, I was sort of...well I had no clue back then. Us getting married was sort of a foregone conclusion to me. We just sort of morphed from "new couple" to "engaged" very quickly.
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Originally Posted by JetJockey
I've been told that I'm 'leftovers' because I'm not married at 28. All the 'good girls' and 'desirable girls' are already taken at this point.
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You're not a leftover. You know it. Remember, you have a clean slate waiting for you this winter. The best is yet to come! |
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07-13-2012, 09:30 PM
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Location: State of Transition
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I've been told that I'm 'leftovers' because I'm not married at 28. All the 'good girls' and 'desirable girls' are already taken at this point.
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I bet some people are saying that (the guys especially, maybe) because you're the brains in town. Sour grapes, maybe, for some. |
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07-13-2012, 11:01 PM
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Wow, this post is so me!
I'm male, turing 29 next week, living in LA, and just got out of a 4 year relationship.
I feel like I missed the boat. I feel like all of my friends are married, many with kids, all settling down. I'm still stuck in my mid-20s, mindset. I've built a decent career in a industry I enjoy, and I have a lot of friends, but definitely feel like all of the women are taken now.
Fingers crossed I meet some good midwest girl in her mid-20s in the next year or two and wants to settle down with me.
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07-13-2012, 11:08 PM
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Location: State of Transition
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Originally Posted by yoyoma02
Wow, this post is so me!
I'm male, turing 29 next week, living in LA, and just got out of a 4 year relationship.
I feel like I missed the boat. I feel like all of my friends are married, many with kids, all settling down.
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It must be an LA thing. This phenom of being surrounded by married friends when you're only in your 20's doesn't happen in Seattle or the Bay Area. Thanks for your frankness, though, Yo. This thread is providing a real insight into the male mind. Who knew some guys feel like they've missed the boat if they're not married by 29? |
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07-14-2012, 06:42 AM
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Don't worry too much OP, I think the right person will come along in due time. I genuinely believe there's someone out there for everyone!
Although, I'll admit sometimes (when I'm in a pessimistic mood) I have doubts about my being 23 and single (I'm female). I just have a lot of friends who are either in serious relationships or already engaged/married, so I feel like I'm missing the boat sometimes - even though I really need this time to figure out MY life, career, etc - don't need any other distractions right now.
But interesting to know guys might feel the same pressure before 30...
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