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Waste of time.
ETA that if I figured out my husband spent 1k on a gift for me to butter me up for a bike, I'd return the gift and give him back the money. It may sound mean to some but we have kids and a million bucks doesn't replace what the kids and I would lose.
Last edited by carlitasway; 07-13-2012 at 10:20 AM..
What about buying her something for say 1k that she wants, much point in helping the situation, or a waste of time?
No-one has commented on that part.
I think it might help. I think he is intitled to buy something he wants, but usually in such a situation the wife and even kids should also get something. If I came into money I would want to share with my SO and children.
I mentally plopped myself into your friends situation. As we have come into extra money over the years we have always decided together what to do with it. Sometimes a big vacation..or something for him/something for me. Here's the thing..it's not about giving her a 1k gift. What it IS about is WHAT he is wanting to buy. All kinds of reasons as a wife/mom I wouldn't want my hubby to get a bike. No bartering/bribing would change that. So if he said he wanted a 5k watch and he would buy her a $1k LV purse..I bet she would have no issues about him spending the money.
ETA: If my hubby informed me it was "his" money..or just came home with it..he would find himself sleeping on the couch. However, my hubby is way to smart to pull something like that.
Last edited by ~Pajama mama~; 07-13-2012 at 10:34 AM..
Reason: ETA
Someone who I know has come into some unexpected cash (legally).
Wants to buy himself and 6K bike. But his wife will have a huge problem with it, b/c 1) She will think its a waste of money....... and he's spending it on himself, even though he obtained the money himself and she had nothing to do with it.
2) the danger factor of the bike, even though he is a semi decent rider.
So my questions are this......what if he bought her a say 1K present on something she wants, how much would this help the situation? and any other ways that can help her having less of a problem with it?
Thx
How did he obtain this money? I guess that might play into it. Was it family money passed down specifically to him or did he scratch a winning lotto ticket?
I get the danger aspect of the bike, but does he need to get her "permission"?? If they have no other frivilous debts, I don't see why he even has to "buy her off" to get what he wants.
ETA: How much of the money is he spending on the bike? It would make a difference. If this is a very small percentage of his windfall then it's not a big deal. If it's every red cent that changes things.
Someone who I know has come into some unexpected cash (legally).
Wants to buy himself and 6K bike. But his wife will have a huge problem with it, b/c 1) She will think its a waste of money....... and he's spending it on himself, even though he obtained the money himself and she had nothing to do with it.
2) the danger factor of the bike, even though he is a semi decent rider.
So my questions are this......what if he bought her a say 1K present on something she wants, how much would this help the situation? and any other ways that can help her having less of a problem with it?
Thx
It's probably more of a safety issue than a cost issue. I don't think an expensive gift will have much affect but I could be wrong.
When you get married, your money is her money and her money is her money.
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