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I believe love is an emotion. That's why sometimes you are forced to walk away even though you love someone -- because there are other issues at play up to and including abuse.
People who think it is pure emotion are inevitably disappointed when the newness of the relationship wears off. This is the view Hollywood pushes and that many younger women believe. Thinking it is pure emotion implies that it is something outside of your control; something that just happens.
People who think it is pure choice end up with someone who they don't particularly like. They force themselves to "choose" to be in love and they lack that warm and fuzzy component. Thinking it is pure choice is cold and calculated which will never lead to real happiness.
My view is that falling in love is emotion, while staying in love is choice. A successful relationship will never have one without the other. The romance and bliss is emotion and the hard times and endurance rely on choice.
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True love, imo, stems from the same deep respect and care for a person as you have for your family, with the added romantic component of course. Love is never pure infatuation alone. i wouldn't say it's a choice to continue on, more like, you dig the person so much that you feel COMPELLED to continue the journey with them. Implying it's a choice sort of implies it's easy to just walk away with it. It's also about how deeply you mire yourself in the situation.
For men it's probably more of a choice. For women, it's probably more emotion. Why? Because women can't shoose to be emotional- they always are. No disrespect intended.
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