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Old 08-26-2012, 03:29 PM
 
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for the average male yes it is, a female can be average looking and still have a lot of options, choices on a online dating site
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Old 08-26-2012, 06:54 PM
 
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for the average male yes it is, a female can be average looking and still have a lot of options, choices on a online dating site
Men have lots of options too. But there are some key facts that some guys don't get.

1. a guy cannot get fixated on one girl or one prospect...you gotta have a "spread the seed" approach. You have to approach a lot of girls, knowing that many (most) will blow you off. Big deal -- there are plenty of others out there. This means you can't wear your heart on your sleeve or get too hung up on one chick...you may think that gals like that sensitivity, but they don't at all. Guys who do that come across as weak and most women don't like men who are weak. You will immediately get either blown off or put in the dreaded "friend zone" from which you will NEVER get out

2. You have to very carefully LISTEN to gals to find out what they *really* want (not what they say they want, 'cause that may or may not be true). Do not just ingest their words; you gotta really get the whole picture. Many women communicate in a roundabout way. You have read between the lines, look for "tells" (using a poker term), read body language and interpret clues.

3. Know that a lot of gals really do want a guy, and that works to your advantage. There are plenty of hungry chicks looking for a decent guy. Lots of guys are jerks and/or losers. If you are neither of these, you already have an advantage. But you gotta play your cards right (see points 1 and 2 above) or you will lose out to the jerks/losers who do play *their* cards right.
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Old 08-26-2012, 06:58 PM
 
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Men have lots of options too. But there are some key facts that some guys don't get.

1. a guy cannot get fixated on one girl or one prospect...you gotta have a "spread the seed" approach. You have to approach a lot of girls, knowing that many (most) will blow you off. Big deal -- there are plenty of others out there. This means you can't wear your heart on your sleeve or get too hung up on one chick...you may think that gals like that sensitivity, but they don't at all. Guys who do that come across as weak and most women don't like men who are weak. You will immediately get either blown off or put in the dreaded "friend zone" from which you will NEVER get out

2. You have to very carefully LISTEN to gals to find out what they *really* want (not what they say they want, 'cause that may or may not be true). Do not just ingest their words; you gotta really get the whole picture. Many women communicate in a roundabout way. You have read between the lines, look for "tells" (using a poker term), read body language and interpret clues.

3. Know that a lot of gals really do want a guy, and that works to your advantage. There are plenty of hungry chicks looking for a decent guy. Lots of guys are jerks and/or losers. If you are neither of these, you already have an advantage. But you gotta play your cards right (see points 1 and 2 above) or you will lose out to the jerks/losers who do play *their* cards right.
true, i'm saying that men have to work on themselves more than women do in order to make themselves attractive to the oppossite sex, and i'm talking about mentally, verbally, socially-wise
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