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So, to you, it is shallow to want to know what your date looks like before committing to spend an hour or two with them? Says a lot about you.
I've had guys call me on the recommendation of a friend, who were dying to meet me, sight unseen, no request for a photo, because i had some very unusual interests in common with them. We had a great convo on the phone, and they couldn't wait to meet me. It never occurred to them to ask about looks or a photo. It was irrelevant.
Dissenter, if you're going to predicate everything on looks, you could miss out on a really good match. Besides, what's the big deal about spending an hour with someone who's looks don't measure up? You can still enjoy an interesting conversation. One hour out of your life won't kill you, and it just might pay off. Women waste HOURS with REALLY BORING GUYS who they meet at a party or somewhere, the guys are good-looking enough, but at lunch/dinner/whatever the women are CLIMBING THE WALLS because the guy is boring, or a motor mouth who doesn't let her get a word in edgewise, or the convo is all about him, no interest in her. Don't be a wimp about losing one measly hour of your precious time. Even if she looked great, you could spend an hour bored out of your skull, or annoyed at quirks of her personality. What if she was drop-dead gorgeous, but had compulsive Jerry Springer mouth? (I've met such women.) How would you feel about your precious hour then?
What if you got set up with an average-looking woman, maybe even a little below average, but she was really into banking, finance, global economics and the like, and you two really hit it off to the point that one hour quickly ran into two hours? And what if she was really kind and sweet, to boot? What then? The love of your life could be a colleague you meet in a business meeting somewhere, but you overlook her, because her looks didn't stand out.
Oh well. I know I'm talking to the wrong crowd. *sigh*
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I've had guys call me on the recommendation of a friend, who were dying to meet me, sight unseen, no request for a photo, because i had some very unusual interests in common with them. We had a great convo on the phone, and they couldn't wait to meet me. It never occurred to them to ask about looks or a photo. It was irrelevant.
Dissenter, if you're going to predicate everything on looks, you could miss out on a really good match. Besides, what's the big deal about spending an hour with someone who's looks don't measure up? You can still enjoy an interesting conversation. One hour out of your life won't kill you, and it just might pay off. Women waste HOURS with REALLY BORING GUYS who they meet at a party or somewhere, the guys are good-looking enough, but at lunch/dinner/whatever the women are CLIMBING THE WALLS because the guy is boring, or a motor mouth who doesn't let her get a word in edgewise, or the convo is all about him, no interest in her. Don't be a wimp about losing one measly hour of your precious time. Even if she looked great, you could spend an hour bored out of your skull, or annoyed at quirks of her personality. What if she was drop-dead gorgeous, but had compulsive Jerry Springer mouth? (I've met such women.) How would you feel about your precious hour then?
What if you got set up with an average-looking woman, maybe even a little below average, but she was really into banking, finance, global economics and the like, and you two really hit it off to the point that one hour quickly ran into two hours? And what if she was really kind and sweet, to boot? What then? The love of your life could be a colleague you meet in a business meeting somewhere, but you overlook her, because her looks didn't stand out.
Oh well. I know I'm talking to the wrong crowd. *sigh*
I'm not predicating everything on looks. I just want an idea of what I'm getting into before getting mine or a girl's hopes up.
That scenario you described I'd love to happen. I never said I was stingy on looks, heck I would be giddy to end up with an average girl. However I just want to look at the cover before opening the book. Looks are a factor no doubt, but not the only thing I'm looking for by a longshot.
Why does Cubs/Chi-Turtle have so many handles? Will he ever stop obsessing about non-problems? Will he ever be able to make decisions without input from others, or live life without updating strangers on his "progress" with things as simple as a meal with a woman?
One entity is a troop of sappy boys bitter about dating. The other is a troop of riled up C-D mamas battling them in polemics. These two need each other for natural co-existence. It's Taoism.
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