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LOL. I love that I'm not the only 1 WTFing on what he said. I still remember the OPs thread where he wrote his topic like a poem. I am beginning to think the OP has his own form of English language that only he can fathom.
It's bizarre. Hey dub dub II if you're still around, what kind of relationship do you want with this woman? If it's taken 18 months to get this far, it doesn't seem like there's romantic passion bubbling on either side.
LOL. I love that I'm not the only 1 WTFing on what he said. I still remember the OPs thread where he wrote his topic like a poem. I am beginning to think the OP has his own form of English language that only he can fathom.
Here's what I'm hearing:
OP, how about you tell us what her "job" is, whether this is someone you've been dating for 18 months or someone you've just been pursuing all this time, what you mean by "making progress," and what kind of problem you think she has with it.
Honestly, if you can't understand my writing...I don't know. I understand most of what everyone else is writing...and in my mind I'm being perfectly clear, expressing the states in which I find myself to the best of language's capability.
I wasn't really chasing her. Basically, I introduced myself, asked her for girl advice, texted her for a bit, ran into her a couple times, texted her more, then she finally asked me if I wanted to "hang out". It took her 1.5 years, she was slow...it makes her smart...
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Originally Posted by Raena77
Um elaborate?
A part of me thinks I deserve it. Or her. Or it. Whichever. That is, I've been busting my ass to make sure that if and when that special other comes into my life, I'll have more to say to her than "whatsup"...that is, I'll have a good grasp on who I am, what I want, what I'm doing to get where I want to be, etc. etc. The fact that she's taking (what seems to be) a long time to show up, it annoys me.
I guess you can say I feel entitled. If women don't think I deserve it, then I just move on to the next. Women? 3 billion of them, they're far from special.
But at the same time, what if the one that actually is special doesn't think I deserve her for whatever reason? I don't give up, that's my problem. I don't think she has that choice...to simply dismiss me without getting to know me first. Maybe when I was younger...but now? Not after I've been busting my ass specifically for her for all my "alone" life. She doesn't get the right to judge me after 5 minutes of interacting with me and not getting to know the whole me.
I guess that's the main schism of self, because it's contradictory. Of course she does get to judge, but I don't think she does, but since when did that ever matter? I'll still do what I'll do, and she'll still think what she'll think.
I wasn't really chasing her. Basically, I introduced myself, asked her for girl advice, texted her for a bit, ran into her a couple times, texted her more, then she finally asked me if I wanted to "hang out". It took her 1.5 years, she was slow...it makes her smart...
Or just not that into you. You do have to give her a choice though on whether she can be with you b/c if you don't that makes you a stalker and stalkers are highly unattractive to those of both sexes.
1.5 years to discover she is not appreciative and chasing her? It does not sound like she is that interested, And you do not sound gung-ho here either. Maybe move on?
If all you were doing was texting for "girl advice" etc., then why would she think you are interested? And why would that make her interested in you?
I'm with all the others who don't understand what you are trying to say or do.
But I would think you would know (even if you are 16) that relationships are hard. Some are worth it, many aren't.
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