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Old 08-07-2012, 12:19 PM
 
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Maybe you just answered my question. One thing that has been different is that the kids were gone for 2 weeks and it was just her and I. We went out to eat all the time to nice places, had wine, walked the city (we live in Paris). And of course, we had lots of carefree sex since there was nobody who could hear us. And during that whole time, she never got annoyed or naggy with me. Not once.

I just got to enjoy being with her all over again. I just wanted more of her as time went on. Maybe that's what happened ..
That sounds dreamy.
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Old 08-07-2012, 12:20 PM
 
Location: USA
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Maybe you just answered my question. One thing that has been different is that the kids were gone for 2 weeks and it was just her and I. We went out to eat all the time to nice places, had wine, walked the city (we live in Paris). And of course, we had lots of carefree sex since there was nobody who could hear us. And during that whole time, she never got annoyed or naggy with me. Not once.

I just got to enjoy being with her all over again. I just wanted more of her as time went on. Maybe that's what happened ..

I think this ^^^^

You two had alone time, you could relax, turn your brains off (so to speak) and just enjoy each other.
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Old 08-07-2012, 12:20 PM
 
Location: St. Louis
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Maybe you just answered my question. One thing that has been different is that the kids were gone for 2 weeks and it was just her and I. We went out to eat all the time to nice places, had wine, walked the city (we live in Paris). And of course, we had lots of carefree sex since there was nobody who could hear us. And during that whole time, she never got annoyed or naggy with me. Not once.

I just got to enjoy being with her all over again. I just wanted more of her as time went on. Maybe that's what happened ..
There's your reason right there. Maybe you should talk about it so she's not wondering if you're making nice after doing something wrong and if she starts to feel smothered she can feel safe letting you know. That's my perspective as a woman who would have loved to have had this "problem" but never did.
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Old 08-07-2012, 12:28 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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S-New Guy: if your wife gets tired of it (which I doubt she would, she's probably thrilled), you can look me up.
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Old 08-07-2012, 12:29 PM
 
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S-New Guy: if your wife gets tired of it (which I doubt she would, she's probably thrilled), you can look me up.
Thanks. I'll keep that in mind
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Old 08-07-2012, 12:30 PM
 
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Ahhh...what not having kids around can do for a relationship.
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Old 08-07-2012, 12:31 PM
 
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There's your reason right there. Maybe you should talk about it so she's not wondering if you're making nice after doing something wrong and if she starts to feel smothered she can feel safe letting you know. That's my perspective as a woman who would have loved to have had this "problem" but never did.
Yeah I don't think she's suspicious of anything. We've always been pretty affectionate. It's just been a long time since I felt this level of .. passion.

I think maybe we need to plan a few more weekends away or something.
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Old 08-07-2012, 12:32 PM
 
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Ahhh...what not having kids around can do for a relationship.
True. We get up way earlier than they do during Summer and weekends. So that's our "window. But even then, I can tell she's always slightly worried they're going to knock.
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Old 08-07-2012, 12:37 PM
 
Location: Long Island, NY
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Maybe you just answered my question. One thing that has been different is that the kids were gone for 2 weeks and it was just her and I. We went out to eat all the time to nice places, had wine, walked the city (we live in Paris). And of course, we had lots of carefree sex since there was nobody who could hear us. And during that whole time, she never got annoyed or naggy with me. Not once.

I just got to enjoy being with her all over again. I just wanted more of her as time went on. Maybe that's what happened ..

It's the only thing I can think of right now.
I think this is very common. I've noticed with several older couples that they become more affectionate or more attached when the nest becomes empty. They travel more, dine out, just overall enjoy themselves with one another because they finally have the time to devote to one another. As parents, especially of young kids, we focus more time and attention on them and not realize we're not as focused on our spouse. It's not done intentionally, of course. I think what you've rekindled is fabulous and I'm sure your wife feels the same way
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Old 08-07-2012, 12:43 PM
 
Location: Whittier
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...or it could be the steroids as alluded to earlier.
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