Abusive Boyfriend?

[Yellow Jacket]

Originally Posted by Torn2pieces

What a horrible thing to say....

This boy needs help.. Suicide is not the answer - DUH.....

How is it horrible? Help only works if HE wants it. Some people don't want help and some do. He may want to commit suicide but that doesn't mean he should take her with him.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Yellow Jacket

If he wants to commit suicide then let him. He has every right to find peace.

He's a boy dealing with the death of his mother who doesn't know WHAT he wants

He needs adult intervention and professional help.

But of course, as his current girlfriend our young OP CARES about him. I'm sure the idea that he might harm himself is HORRIFYING to her.

You can't just tell her to let him go ahead and kill himself

Again, if you have nothing useful to say sometimes it's better not to say anything at all.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by JustAGirl11

Yeah, you're probably right. He just reminds me of the boy who cried wolf. I'm afraid that if I do leave him he will actually do it and it will be my fault.

He's responsible for his own life, you're not. It won't be your fault. All you can do it tell him to get help, find a counselor (there are free clinics in some cities), or call a suicide hotline. The radical personality change could be due to depression, but that's not your concern. The "why" of it isn't your worry. You're lucky you have family that care about you enough to sit you down and call some things to your attention. The important thing for you now is to stay safe, and lean on your family for support. Best wishes.

[Yellow Jacket]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

He's a boy dealing with the death of his mother who doesn't know WHAT he wants

He needs adult intervention and professional help.

But of course, as his current girlfriend our young OP CARES about him. I'm sure the idea that he might harm himself is HORRIFYING to her.

You can't just tell her to let him go ahead and kill himself

Again, if you have nothing useful to say sometimes it's better not to say anything at all.

Have you interviewed him to know what he wants? You are willing to just jump to a conclusion. She can only control herself. Concern yourself with the OP not me.