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Well then, who else should you be and how long do you expect yourself to maintain that alter ego? You can't run from who you are, and eventually your true colors will manifest themselves. May as well save the headache and stress of trying to maintain a false image and just be who you are. I'd rather someone be interested in the real me rather than my short-lived representative.
But i'll ask the question again, what if no one is interested in the real you?
But i'll ask the question again, what if no one is interested in the real you?
That would really depend on why. Are you loud, obnoxious and rude to the point you embarrass people when you go out? Are you a negative Nelly who never has anything good to say about anything? Are you a know-it-all who disagrees with everything everyone says to you?
There are some people who are truly unpleasant to be around. My experience with those I know personally is they really aren't happy in their lives.
That would really depend on why. Are you loud, obnoxious and rude to the point you embarrass people when you go out? Are you a negative Nelly who never has anything good to say about anything? Are you a know-it-all who disagrees with everything everyone says to you?
There are some people who are truly unpleasant to be around. My experience with those I know personally is they really aren't happy in their lives.
Lots of perfectly decent but not attractive guys just don't do well with women.
IMHO, "be yourself" is, indeed, terrible advice. For people asking you for advice, if being themselves worked, they wouldn't need advice in the first place. I used to hate it when someone told me to "just be myself."
That would really depend on why. Are you loud, obnoxious and rude to the point you embarrass people when you go out? Are you a negative Nelly who never has anything good to say about anything? Are you a know-it-all who disagrees with everything everyone says to you?
There are some people who are truly unpleasant to be around. My experience with those I know personally is they really aren't happy in their lives.
It doesn't matter.
If someone is loud, obnoxious and rude then that's who they really are. If they weren't obnoxious and rude then they wouldn't be themselves. They would be someone else.
Same thing with the negative person and the know-it-all. Those unbearable character flaws are their real personalities.
I think this topic deserves deeper insight and greater debate then many people want to give it.
I think the point is that you can't always be "not yourself." You'll eventually revert and then wonder why your partner says you've changed, or they don't know you anymore.
If someone is loud, obnoxious and rude then that's who they really are. If they weren't obnoxious and rude then they wouldn't be themselves. They would be someone else.
Same thing with the negative person and the know-it-all. Those unbearable character flaws are their real personalities.
I think this topic deserves deeper insight and greater debate then many people want to give it.
Is a flaw someone's true character or is it just a behaviour they're exhibiting? Or can behaviour and character not be separated? If you're loud and obnoxious, but underneath are good-hearted and kind, isn't loud and obnoxious a persona you've assumed, and couldn't you change those behaviours without changing the core of who you are as a person?
I think the point is that you can't always be "not yourself." You'll eventually revert and then wonder why your partner says you've changed, or they don't know you anymore.
Been there, done that.
Sure, you are right.
My point is that "being themselves" means that some guys end up not having partners at all.
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