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Whenever I read dating advice and someone says "be yourself", I instantly x out. It's the worst advice and very counterproductive. Being yourself got you in this trouble so it makes sense to be something else. I mean if someone failed at the olympics you don't tell them be yourself, you tell them to improve themselves and work habits so they can win next time. It literally makes no sense to double down on your past mistakes. Yourself is a failure so you should go out and actively improve yourself by every means necessary. Go to the gym, read a book, travel, go to a museum and chat up randoms, do anything besides following yourself because yourself is a massive failure.
You are interpreting the "be yourself" thing way too literally and rigidly. Others in this thread have already explained it well.
Thats also very wise advice. However, when a man meets a woman of his life, he loses his soul. I know this sounds a little out there but there is actualy quite a bit of philosophical background behind this statement. Notice, holy men are always forced into life of solitutude, in order to avoid this very scenario. All 5 main religions speak pof this phenomena, if you know how to seek it out. I have recently picked up some posters of beautiful women with facepaint symbolizing death, and i absolutely love for what they stand for. Crazy stuff, but very real and true.
This is one of the most insane things I've read in this forum.
Loses his soul?!?! What in the HELL are you talking about?
I don't give a rats arse about religion. In case you hadn't noticed I am an atheist. Religions are a scourge on humanity and one of the main causes of hatred and ill treatment of women throughout history.
Thats fine and dandy, all im trying to tell you, is that this isnt something that i pulled out of thin air, but has been written about all over the globe, thousands of years ago and billions of people follow. dig?
Thats fine and dandy, all im trying to tell you, is that this isnt something that i pulled out of thin air, but has been written about all over the globe, thousands of years ago and billions of people follow. dig?
Sure, and there are many messed-up and deluded people who follow such 'wisdom'.
Whenever I read dating advice and someone says "be yourself", I instantly x out. It's the worst advice and very counterproductive. Being yourself got you in this trouble so it makes sense to be something else. I mean if someone failed at the olympics you don't tell them be yourself, you tell them to improve themselves and work habits so they can win next time. It literally makes no sense to double down on your past mistakes. Yourself is a failure so you should go out and actively improve yourself by every means necessary. Go to the gym, read a book, travel, go to a museum and chat up randoms, do anything besides following yourself because yourself is a massive failure.
"Be yourself" is horrible advice. Instead you should be your best self. If what you're doing isn't working for you in the relationship department, obviously doing more of the same is a foolish to say the least.
Any "dating" advice that tells you to "be yourself" is horrible advice from the jump. People use that to rationalize shortcomings in areas where they've been to lazy to improve themselves. It should also be noted that advice like this is gender specific, It works for (young and attractive) females so this has been projected onto men.
I think the real issue is that not enough people actually know who they are to have the confidence to be themselves. If that was the case many passive forms of meeting people (i.e. online dating) would cease to exist.
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I don't think that will ever change.
