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I'm planning on asking out a girl from my summer class next week, and I was wondering if anyone here could offer me a few pointers. I don't know this girl too well because we haven't had the chance to talk much, but I feel there is some chemistry between us and I really have nothing to lose. In all honesty, I'm 21 and have never been on a date before. I don't know the proper way to ask out a girl, or where I should suggest we go.
Here are a few things to keep in mind:
She's a couple of years older than me.
She is of a different race than me and also from a different country (France). I'm an American white guy.
Lunch in a pub somewhere in your college town? Keep it low-pressure but open-ended. If things are going well, go for a walk afterwards. Right now, you don't need to impress her with your creative planning for the first date - it's more about establishing compatibility.
Are you able to walk somewhere to go out or are you relying on her to drive? If your expecting her to drive then I would say your doomed. No girl will be impressed once you say, "can you drive though?" Good luck with that.
If your planning on meeting up somewhere and walking or whatever than that is different. On a first date when your looking for compatibility I always suggest dinner. Its cliche' but it works. During the times when you have nothing to say you can chew on some food. If you want to be a little more creative, I suggest bowling. Normally I leave that to the second or third date though.
I like to just sit and talk on first dates. May sound boring, but the whole point of a date is to get to know someone. You can't do that if you go see a movie. Maybe go to a park with her and just sit and talk.
Try some trivia. Bars and pubs often have trivia nights. Drink a little, talk a little, and play. Great way to get to know what she's all about, too, by the categories she's in to.
Just take her out for a cup of coffee or a drink somewhere. Make it short and sweet with an easy out for both of you, if needed. forget about going out as just friends, unless thats all you ever want to be with this girl. be decisive and clear with your intentions. If things work well, take her for a long walk afterwords.
Just take her out for a cup of coffee or a drink somewhere. Make it short and sweet with an easy out for both of you, if needed. forget about going out as just friends, unless thats all you ever want to be with this girl. be decisive and clear with your intentions. If things work well, take her for a long walk afterwords.
I'm surprised this is your suggestion. Coffee is boring, unoriginal and expected. Bummer.
I'm surprised this is your suggestion. Coffee is boring, unoriginal and expected. Bummer.
The pub lunch is even better than that.
Yeah i know, little boring. But im taking who he's meeting into consideration, you see. French women simply love to chit chat over a cup of coffee, sitting at an outdoor cafe. It would be a great ice breaker in this scenario.
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