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OP, since you are on a loser streak and are about to start college, I would leave it there. Focus your extra time on school. You may even meet a nice guy at college, someone with some ambition.
I'm 18. I graduated high school early. I have a car, a job, and I'll be starting school soon. I also have my own place.
The only guys ever interested in me are 20-somethings who live at home, have no car, no job, and don't go to school.
The only non-loser who's ever talked to me isn't even interested in dating, lol. Ouch.
So where are decent guys at?
You will lots of guys that will interest you when you start college.That is a good place to start looking. Will you be living on campus or will you keep your apartment. Do you live alone?
Thank you. I was wondering why everyone was being so negative towards me. I'm not some uppity b*tch, I just don't want to be used anymore.
Rep for you.
Thank you.
If you want to meet people with more to offer than you're getting, it would depend on where you live. Someone in LA , New York or London will have a much different time of it than someone in Boise.
If you were in England, I'd suggest going to Knightsbridge or Chelsea: Getting a gym membership there, going to some of the smart clubs or restaurants. In fact, even though you've set things pretty modestly for what you're looking for, you could meet the types of men you're looking for. You'd have to avoid some of the pitfalls of that, where people use the things they have as an excuse not to treat you well, but a poverty-stricken person is just as likely to try to use you as a person of means.
Just know that there's no problem with looking for someone who has their act together. Some people will say there is, but that's simply not right. You can fall in love with a person with success as you can with someone who doesn't have success, but you can only fall in love with someone you meet. If you stay with one particular group, that's the relationship you'll have.
She might from Chicago or midwest. People here end sentences in prepositions and its considered very normal.
To the OP. Youre either attracted to losers and dont even notice decent guys or you look in places where only losers hang. There ar eplenty of decent guys out there, although not too many 18 year olds truly want a decent guy.
OP can you state what exactly makes these guys losers. Is it because they try to do like one guy did which is mooch off of you or is it because they don't have what you have? The car, the place, the job. If it's the former than I can understand but if it's the latter well...... I just hope you recognize that in this day and age most people around your age will not have everything that you have unless their parents or someone else is fitting the bill for it. Even if they do have jobs it would most likely be working at a Foot Locker in the mall or something. You can find that guy you're looking for but it may be harder for you than others your age. Unless your willing to date much older guys.
I agree with some of the other posters in that you are young and have achieved what most people your age have not (congrats). It seems to me that young people these days (I know I sound like an old fart) aren’t achieving independence as early as they once did. So many I see are into their early 20’s still living at home doing nothing with their life. Take some time and Im sure you will find someone with more direction when you start school. Don’t be in such a hurry to be attached to a guy. You’ve got lots of time so enjoy life.
I agree with some of the other posters in that you are young and have achieved what most people your age have not (congrats). It seems to me that young people these days (I know I sound like an old fart) aren’t achieving independence as early as they once did. So many I see are into their early 20’s still living at home doing nothing with their life. Take some time and Im sure you will find someone with more direction when you start school. Don’t be in such a hurry to be attached to a guy. You’ve got lots of time so enjoy life.
The the OP: You like most people have a high opinion of yourself that is not supported by the facts. At 20 years old, most of the future high achievers in your age group are mostly in college, or in the military. Considering your condescending attitude, I have my doubts that you'll ever find someone that fits your standards.
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Let's put some things into perspective...you're very young and have some stringent requirements...and that's okay, that's great...but recognize that to realize your criteria you're gonna have to spend some time seperating the wheat from thed chaff...
Maybe because Im from an older generation, but really? Expecting someone in their 20's to have direction, a job, transportation isnt stringent requirements or having a high opinion of yourself. Legal age is 18.
Im beginning to think this country needs to raise the legal age back to 21. I certainly understand we are living in bad economic times, but there are options for kids coming out of HS. They should certainly be aware of the economic environment and make some contingency plan. There is continued education, military, any job, not just chillin until the economy recovers.
I have neices and nephews that have recently graduated or are about to. Some of them have a plan and are working to achieve that, others not so much. They all have equal opportunities. Its more about the ambition and putting the work into moving forward than the economy. It is harder than it once was but it can be done.
Thank you. I was wondering why everyone was being so negative towards me. I'm not some uppity b*tch, I just don't want to be used anymore.
Rep for you.
You can only be used if you let yourself be used. Quit allowing it.
I'm only just into my 30s but you younger people baffle me. Why are many of you so hopped up on being in relationships? Live a little, geez. Single is not the end of the world.
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If you stay with one particular group, that's the relationship you'll have.
