Are you ready for Marriage? (older, sex, sleeping, different)
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Interesting article I thought some of you may enjoy! I sure did. It was real, it was honest, and somewhat enlightening--for me anyway.
P.S. For the love of _______________________ pleeeese replace the author with a he/she as you please. Yeees we all can make these mistakes MALE and FEMALE, this particular article just came from the voice of a male. Not calling males out or anything, just tickling your brains for enjoyment and/or enlightenment.
This was a depressing read. This guy was so like most of the guys I knew who got married in those days. So many decent, considerate guys never had a chance, yet women complain that all men are a**holes.
Man everything involved with marriage is expensive and women have such high expectations....
I really don't want to spend 10,000 on a ring........
i work wiht a guy who's girl told him that if he were to ever propose, he would need to spend at least 30k on a ring. Poor guy is pinching pennies for awhile now. I would have laughed and walked.
Man everything involved with marriage is expensive and women have such high expectations....
I really don't want to spend 10,000 on a ring........
Not every marriage is like that and not every woman has high expectations regarding rings and extravagant weddings. My wife and I got by with just a wedding band for our wedding and we had a clambake in her parent's backyard for the reception. My friends still tell me it's the best wedding reception they ever went to...
Of course later on I had to get her a very nice ring so she would have something to show off, but by that time we were in much better shape financially than when we got married so it wasn't that big a deal.
Not every marriage is like that and not every woman has high expectations regarding rings and extravagant weddings. My wife and I got by with just a wedding band for our wedding and we had a clambake in her parent's backyard for the reception. My friends still tell me it's the best wedding reception they ever went to...
Of course later on I had to get her a very nice ring so she would have something to show off, but by that time we were in much better shape financially than when we got married so it wasn't that big a deal.
Funny ain't it? Certainly, we did both did rings (between her engagement ring and our bands it amounted to be several thousand dollars). Now after over a decade together, we both got into considerably better physical shape over the past few years (my wife's transformation was friggin' dramatic, awesome, and courageous all at the same time). As a consequence our rings don't really fit anymore so neither of us wear them. But we are in no particularly hurry to get them resized. Because after our children, home, and general married life together we both feel we don't really need the outward display of the rings to show we are together. So they are very nice to look at on the little crystal pedestal on which they sit but no "hardware", no matter how much it costs, can demonstrate what the true testament of marriage is.
Yes giving her the engagement ring was meaningful. But I think then the whole revelry behind the rings, the dress, and the ceremony was for more for my wife's friends (think peer pressure) then anything else. Don't get me wrong; I was more than happy and complicit to oblige. But all of the material things surrounding the engagement up through the day of the wedding (even money we received as gifts that were part of the down payment to our first house) actually have ZERO practical use in our everyday life today. If I can convey any message to any young lady, the cost of your ring is valueless in terms of the measure of how your fiance feels about you. Now to put a commensurate amount of money into a retirement account on your behalf means something because he's in it for the long haul!
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