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I guess it wouldn't be so bad if the two parites dislike for each other was only communicated to you, but its quite different when both parties know the other hates it guts.
My bf doesn't like my friends and I dont really like his much either. Everyone wants to do things on Fri or Saturday anyways, so we end up going out with our friends separately. Works for us.
In real life circumstances, you wouldn't force two strangers to be friends, so I dont feel it's an obligation for everyone to be buddy buddy if they have absolutely nothing in common.
Lol, no seriously, tell them this is your life and you choose the people in your life because they make YOU happy. You appreciate any concern that they may have for you but there is no need. Also, tell them you are now requesting that both sides STOP talking about the other. Suck it up if they want to be in your life. I personally would call a meeting with everyone included to get it all out there on the table since they all know anyway.
Whoever else acts a nut after that, I would distance myself very very far from them. The last thing anyone needs is toxic relationships.
My bf doesn't like my friends and I dont really like his much either. Everyone wants to do things on Fri or Saturday anyways, so we end up going out with our friends separately. Works for us.
In real life circumstances, you wouldn't force two strangers to be friends, so I dont feel it's an obligation for everyone to be buddy buddy if they have absolutely nothing in common.
True, but you can expect everybody to act like mature frickin adults and not show or say what they feel all the time when its negative. If neither party is bringing physical harm to the OP both sides need to shut it and act mature. Noone's saying be friendly, but being cordial is necessary if they are to all mix.
Figure out which one is quality (your friends, or the BF/GF) and get rid of the other. Get rid of all of them if they all suck. If people aren't getting along on a wholesale basis, then there is a reason.
I don't get it. I mean, I've had boyfriends my friends didn't really approve of, but they were grown-up to be civilized when associating with them. And one boyfriend HATED one of my friends. He still was polite to her. I've hated some of my friends' significant others, but I treat them with the same courtesy I would anyone else.
I will note though, that in all cases when one party hated another, like really hated them, there was a serious flaw with one of the parties involved. The friend who absolutely loathed my one boyfriend? No longer my friend (not only because she hated the boyfriend). The boyfriend is long gone, but I appreciate the fact that he helped alert me to her very poor sense of boundaries. The other boyfriend who really hated one of my friends is gone, and the friend is still in my life. I usually think that the person doing the hating is the one who has to go, unless they're hating because the object of their hate is physically or emotionally harmful to the significant other/friend.
Even if they don't like each other they should be mature enough and care for YOU enough to be nice to one another in social situations. And I'd be pretty concerned that my friends hated my boyfriend. I want a boyfriend that can fit into my social circle.
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