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Teen pregnancy, or that kind of people who marry, produce a few babies and then divorce and repeat the same pattern with somebody else over and over. Do you think the reason is a lack of Emotional Intelligence? (rather than a lack of education, or IQ, since some educated high IQ people do so too)
Not a lack of intelligence, but ignorance and a lack of education.
Relationships 101 should be taught in schools. How to get one, and how to keep one.
With special emphasis on the latter.
We spend a long time teaching people about sex, but we don't teach them that living wth someone can be tiring, that it has it's ups and downs, how to deal with conflict, how to deal with abuse etc, etc, etc.
We don't teach them that having children will NOT save a floundering relationship, but hasten it's demise.
we don't teach them not to rush into marriage, and that even if we do, we have to work to make it happen, it doesn't happen automatically.
We don't teach them life skills at all. Academic success is all well and good, but it means not a jot in your everyday life
People shouldn't be taught what to think, rather how to think.
Not sure there is a good way to prevent people from making poor decisions. Or poor decisions being a mark of low IQ... I've smart people make bad choices and visa versa. Stupid people often do make poor choices... The saying, you can't fix stupid would also apply.
It's a lack of foresight and a severe inability to distinguish the superficial from the important.
Of course, once women are sucked into this life, their options are usually severely limited. Hence, the serial relationships that go nowhere.
A choice of birth control, adoption or abortion should be vigorously promoted with the alternatives CLEARLY presented. Far too often popular culture portrays this in a positive light while the incentives - such as free housing - can lead to poor long term choices. Unfortunately, 95% of the welfare goes to long term cases of women with children rather than short term help to get single people back on their feet.
The era when women with children can often remarry has ended. It may be unfair to some women but it is the reality.
Just a lack of wisdom. For intelligence and wisdom are two completely different qualities. Any drooling halfwit knows how babies are made.
My idiot brother-in-law had a weekend special 21 years ago with a total whackjob and sired himself a daughter. They didn't marry and he wound up having custody of her at age 14. Smart as a whip, straight As, great test scores, and -- wait for it -- knocked up at age 17. As it turns out, she had one pregnancy scare, and then went out and got pregnant again. And my clueless BIL couldn't get past his religious beliefs to secure her some birth control. So everybody in the family, father, daughter, mother, grandparents, uncles and aunts all had to deal with their wholesale foolishness.
People shouldn't be taught what to think, rather how to think.
Not sure there is a good way to prevent people from making poor decisions. Or poor decisions being a mark of low IQ... I've smart people make bad choices and visa versa. Stupid people often do make poor choices... The saying, you can't fix stupid would also apply.
I actually agree.
Plus, you really can't stop the basic human instinct to get laid as much as possible.
It's a lack of foresight and a severe inability to distinguish the superficial from the important.
Of course, once women are sucked into this life, their options are usually severely limited. Hence, the serial relationships that go nowhere.
A choice of birth control, adoption or abortion should be vigorously promoted with the alternatives CLEARLY presented. Far too often popular culture portrays this in a positive light while the incentives - such as free housing - can lead to poor long term choices. Unfortunately, 95% of the welfare goes to long term cases of women with children rather than short term help to get single people back on their feet.
The era when women with children can often remarry has ended. It may be unfair to some women but it is the reality.
A girl I worked with some years ago in college is like this. She had 2 kids, then recently got pregnant again. She's ludicrously happy about having another kid, but has no real job and is but bitching about her "men" wanting nothing to do with the kids or her, etc. I suspect she has no idea what birth control is and can't see the men she's choosing for who they really are, only seeing that A. they're male and B. they want her. She at least lives with her family, etc so she's not out on the streets or struggling, but from my point of view, has no interest in learning from her mistakes.
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