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It's a lack of foresight and a severe inability to distinguish the superficial from the important.
Of course, once women are sucked into this life, their options are usually severely limited. Hence, the serial relationships that go nowhere.
A choice of birth control, adoption or abortion should be vigorously promoted with the alternatives CLEARLY presented. Far too often popular culture portrays this in a positive light while the incentives - such as free housing - can lead to poor long term choices. Unfortunately, 95% of the welfare goes to long term cases of women with children rather than short term help to get single people back on their feet.
The era when women with children can often remarry has ended. It may be unfair to some women but it is the reality.
The bolded is not true at all. In fact, my single Mom friends have had WAY more luck dating than I have, and many of them remarry fairly easily. A friend of mine (I've mentioned her, the one who was married for nearly 10 years and her husband left her and the kids) had a boyfriend within 6 months of her separation and he's absolutely fantastic and adores her and the kids. My sisters best friend is dating a 22 year old girl with a 5 year old and absolutely loves her and the kid and he's only 21 and a really good guy. The gal whose fiance left in the middle of the day while she was pregnant? Got a boyfriend at 7 months along. Just had her baby a few weeks ago and they're both happy. He has a great job and seems like a genuinely nice man.
Me? No kids, college educated, single for going on 3 years. The single Mom's I know seem to have absolutely no problems at all getting into relationships with good men. I know it's anecdotal and may be regional but they never have issues getting boyfriends or getting remarried.
I know it's anecdotal and may be regional but they never have issues getting boyfriends or getting remarried.
It isn't regional. I can attest to the same anecdotal phenomenon living in both New Zealand and Australia. The divorced Mums I knew never had a problem finding another man. And good men too, not knuckle draggers.
It isn't regional. I can attest to the same anecdotal phenomenon living in both New Zealand and Australia. The divorced Mums I knew never had a problem finding another man. And good men too, not knuckle draggers.
Exactly! I think a 'ready made' family appeals to a lot of men, considering they don't have to go through the courtship, the marriage, the pregnancy etc etc. They skip all the 'hard parts' and BOOM, family!
It isn't regional. I can attest to the same anecdotal phenomenon living in both New Zealand and Australia. The divorced Mums I knew never had a problem finding another man. And good men too, not knuckle draggers.
I can say the same of my area. I dont know any single moms that cant date or remarry if they choose to. After my first husband died I had no trouble finding interested men. I had no desire to remarry at that time and turned down several marriage proposals.
Teen pregnancy, or that kind of people who marry, produce a few babies and then divorce and repeat the same pattern with somebody else over and over. Do you think the reason is a lack of Emotional Intelligence? (rather than a lack of education, or IQ, since some educated high IQ people do so too)
How many teens have emotional IQ, anyway? Teens are just beginning to learn about relating to the opposite sex in a romantic way (as opposed to friendship). Few at that age have emotional IQ. The reason for pregnancy probably relate more to self-esteem issues of various sorts.
Teen pregnancy, or that kind of people who marry, produce a few babies and then divorce and repeat the same pattern with somebody else over and over. Do you think the reason is a lack of Emotional Intelligence? (rather than a lack of education, or IQ, since some educated high IQ people do so too)
Teen pregnancy, not always, but YES in many cases.
I can say the same of my area. I dont know any single moms that cant date or remarry if they choose to. After my first husband died I had no trouble finding interested men. I had no desire to remarry at that time and turned down several marriage proposals.
This has been the same thing my single mom friends experienced as well. I've told Notaredneck that in another thread where he wrote something similar(along the lines of single mom's being damaged forever and never finding a quality relationship or marriage again). I suspect that he and the men he associates with are against dating/remarrying single mom's but in my area I see no single mom's wanting for relationships or second marriages. I'd say it seems like they have it easier, when I compare friends I've had that have been single for years, or my sister for instance, who educated, childless, sweet, smart, pretty, etc and yet can't seem to snag a LTR.
Teen pregnancy, or that kind of people who marry, produce a few babies and then divorce and repeat the same pattern with somebody else over and over. Do you think the reason is a lack of Emotional Intelligence? (rather than a lack of education, or IQ, since some educated high IQ people do so too)
Emotional Intelliegence is a questionable term which has some people asking if it's even real intelligence. EI is compared with a personality measure but not with a measure of academic intelligence vice versa, contrasted with a measure of abstract intelligence but not with a personality measure. Emotions are unpredictable as well making it difficult to identify a correlation. Anyhow, it's difficult to nail down anything conclusive with the above mentioned behaivor since the pattern is found with married or devoirced women, high or low income, an different education back grounds.
Theres Too many contraceptives out there for teen pregnancy to be a problem
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I'd say it seems like they have it easier, when I compare friends I've had that have been single for years, or my sister for instance, who educated, childless, sweet, smart, pretty, etc and yet can't seem to snag a LTR.
