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There's a woman I sometimes see at the gym I workout at who is always wearing headphones when she works out so I haven't yet talked to her though I've smiled at her a few times. I definitely want to sleep with her but I because I'm not interested in a traditional dating relationship, I don't want to mislead her. Instead, I'd like to just be brutally honest with my intentions. Is there anything wrong with me just saying "Excuse me, I've seen you here many times before and I think you're very sexy...can you appreciate an honest man who asks for what he wants?" If she says "no", then I would just say nothing. But if she says "yes", I would say "I'd like to invite you to my place to spend some time with you one day when you're free....can I get your number so we can make a date?"
I know that the socially accepted approach is for me to just make chit-chat/small talk, try to be friends first, or take her out on a date, but what's wrong with just being completely honest about letting her know I want sex?
Notice that I plan to never mention the word "sex" in the conversation but rather want to use the words "spend time" because I feel the vagueness might help her to not feel like a **** if she accepts the offer. Also, if she asks "what would we do at your place?", I could then say something like "well we could talk and you can give me tips on organizing my bedroom closet" or something to that effect - which would get the "message" across but at the same time giving her the chance to "deceive herself" into thinking that my intentions could possibly be "innocent".
What do you men and women think of this brutally honest and direct approach?
A woman who's going to go for that approach probably isn't someone you want to sleep with...
STD farm and then some. Just my opinion, of course.
Now hold on a second here because I'll be brutally honest. If this dude in my gym that I see everyday is who completely smoking hot in every aspect came up to me and said "Hi, you're hot. You want to go bang?" I'd probably seriously consider it. I've never had a one night/day stand. But that's only after giving him the F me eye once in a while so it wouldn't be a cold approach as I've already eye raped him basically everyday..LMAO
THIS is what it always boils down to for women. This is why women need time to evaluate someone. Women who would take you up on your "invitation" do exist, OP, but the odds of you finding one are low. Still, guys have been known to get lucky in this regard. I vote you try it, and get back to us. Do you mind if we send a film crew to cover it? The crew will be discreet.
Now hold on a second here because I'll be brutally honest. If this dude in my gym that I see everyday is who completely smoking hot in every aspect came up to me and said "Hi, you're hot. You want to go bang?" I'd probably seriously consider it. I've never had a one night/day stand. But that's only after giving him the F me eye once in a while so it wouldn't be a cold approach as I've already eye raped him basically everyday..LMAO
ROFL!!! You're on a roll today, with the comic relief! You're killing me! LOL! I wonder if anyone has ever really said this? OH! I know who...Mr. "Direct Approach" himself...2012! LOLOLOL!!
ROFL!!! You're on a roll today, with the comic relief! You're killing me! LOL! I wonder if anyone has ever really said this? OH! I know who...Mr. "Direct Approach" himself...2012! LOLOLOL!!
Nah, i never say it that way, but i always mean it, she knows it and it works like a charm.
Wow. You're really not good at this. Maybe you should reconsider the playa route, dude.
Asking her on a date is a show of good faith that allows her to establish a comfort zone with you, enabling her to judge whether or not she trusts you enough to go to your home for sex or feels enough physical compatibility. An intimate conversation in a more private setting does wonders for my ability to evaluate my physical attraction and compatibility. Heck, me and my last date were making out like teenagers after 20 minutes of conversation, when we went out to chat outside the bar while he smoked.
But your lack of desire to put in any reasonable/minimal effort does not bode well at all - I'm getting the vibe that this woman is just a pretty vessel for you, not a real-live human being. What's your investment in her pleasure?
Yeah, she'll most likely turn down your proposition no matter what.
I agree with this statement . Be aware of your surroundings. In a bar or club the direct approach may work but i don't think that approach will work in a gym setting. Just approach her, introduce yourself, exchange numbers, then go from there.
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