When men that you've met 30 minutes ago ask you to put your phone away (long distance, women)
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Well, there were two rude people in the scenario: The guy and you.
No excuse for the guy's behavior. But, by the same token, it's just rude to have a conversation with someone while texting someone else. Period. End of story.
Hey, I'm prone to check my e-mail or whatever if I'm at a restaurant, and I recognize that enough to try to stop it. But actively texting someone? Yikes.
Then we can conclude that they are both on the same level so there shouldn't be any problem.
How was I being rude??? We're in a group of people. Most of us just met. What am I supposed to do, excuse myself to talk to people I actually know???
IMO, that is controlling behavior. Which is particularly nuts if you just meet someone.
Not a good way to make a first impression. Here's a guy who bought you a drink, you thought he was cute enough to join his table, but instead of getting to know him, you'd rather text your friends?
This is an informal situation that I'm sure a lot of you aren't personally familiar with. We're all crowded together in close proximity by the bar, and yes we're all chatting (some of us even had our phones on the bar, I had mine in my hand). You don't get more informal than that.
How was I being rude??? We're in a group of people. Most of us just met. What am I supposed to do, excuse myself to talk to people I actually know???
IMO, that is controlling behavior. Which is particularly nuts if you just meet someone.
Sorry, still rude in my opinion.
If I'm standing in line at the grocery store having a small-talk coversation with the person behind me, I wouldn't answer a text or call that came in. If I was expecting an important call, then I'd excuse myself to answer the phone with "I'm so sorry, I've been waiting for this call and need to take it but you have a good day".
If you were having a text conversation, you should have finished it before talking to the guys. Even if I'm just out to dinner with a friend, I turn the sound off on my phone. I'm there to have dinner with him/her and any text messages can wait until I'm done. I assume if I text someone and don't get a response, they are busy and will respond when they can. Personally, I think it is sad if I'm out to eat with a friend and they can't get through the entire meal without having to check their phone-especially if they invited me to join them.
As for this situation, yes, it was rude for him to try to take the phone and want to know who you were talking to, especially since you just met. But since you weren't really that interested in a conversation with him (otherwise you would have devoted more of your attention to him), you should have just thanked him for the drinks and excused yourself to go back to your friends.
I understand there's a bit of a generational issue going on here. It's pretty common for me to be out with someone who replies to texts. I'm in my 20s. Sometimes if they're texting someone else they'll ask for advice on what to say or text that they're with me and what they're doing. I understand this is difficult for older people.
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Originally Posted by *Sixy*
If I'm standing in line at the grocery store having a small-talk coversation with the person behind me, I wouldn't answer a text or call that came in. If I was expecting an important call, then I'd excuse myself to answer the phone with "I'm so sorry, I've been waiting for this call and need to take it but you have a good day".
That is just crazy, imo. I'm sure 95 percent of the people you're sharing small talk with wouldn't interrupt their conversations for you nor be bothered that you wouldn't for them.
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