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a man or woman you were dating still had their ex's belongings after being split up for 6+ months? Would this bother you? What I mean by belongings are a couple of clothing items that are not stashed away, women's shampoo, women's personal hygiene items, pictures, her hair wraps and scarves.. All of these things are not put away but still seemingly left exactly where the ex last left them.
Likewise men, how would you feel if a lady friend you had been seeing still had her ex's men's shampoo, men's shaving cream, men's razor, couple of boxers, robe, pictures placed in her bathroom, closet, or out in the open after 6+months of cutting it off from him?
Would you find this to be a red flag that he or she has possibly not moved on or healed from the past relationship?
I was reading a thread on another forum (yes I am cheating on you fine C-D'ers , lol) and was suprised at the responses given. I had no idea so many people did NOT see this as a red flag. I just could not see myself comfortably dating a guy who still had his ex's belongings everywhere out in the open as if she still lived there, especially after 6 or more months had passed.
definately a huge red flag. She would have serious explaining to do. And if my gut didn't believe her, I would probably stop seeing her.
For all I know, they are still FWB.
That would be red flags to me. A picture in a box in a closet wouldn't bother me, but pictures still displayed?? No way! And I'm not sure why you would keep their personal items...that's weird. If a guy left his tooth paste behind then yeah I'd probably use it, but what use would I have for his razor or body wash?? Weird...
Likewise men, how would you feel if a lady friend you had been seeing still had her ex's men's shampoo, men's shaving cream, men's razor, couple of boxers, robe, pictures placed in her bathroom, closet, or out in the open after 6+months of cutting it off from him?
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I would use the shampoo, shaving cream, and razor (if new) until the contents were gone or no longer useful. If the boxers and robe fit, I'd wear them. And as for the pictures: take photos of myself and insert them into the frames.
a man or woman you were dating still had their ex's belongings after being split up for 6+ months? Would this bother you? What I mean by belongings are a couple of clothing items that are not stashed away, women's shampoo, women's personal hygiene items, pictures, her hair wraps and scarves.. All of these things are not put away but still seemingly left exactly where the ex last left them.
Likewise men, how would you feel if a lady friend you had been seeing still had her ex's men's shampoo, men's shaving cream, men's razor, couple of boxers, robe, pictures placed in her bathroom, closet, or out in the open after 6+months of cutting it off from him?
Would you find this to be a red flag that he or she has possibly not moved on or healed from the past relationship?
I was reading a thread on another forum (yes I am cheating on you fine C-D'ers , lol) and was suprised at the responses given. I had no idea so many people did NOT see this as a red flag. I just could not see myself comfortably dating a guy who still had his ex's belongings everywhere out in the open as if she still lived there, especially after 6 or more months had passed.
You cheater you I will fight to keep here you know!
This kind of stuff COULD be a red flag, but most likely just indicates a lazy procrastinator, lol.
Let me put it this way. When I first met my current wife, not only was her ex's clothing and toiletries scattered around, the ex was still living there too! Seeing as how they had started - and ended - as housemates with a lease, I can see how this came about. However, they were done, and she chose me. No problem, just a little yellow flag at first.
A few things from an ex is alright. But I put them away. I have old pics. Book of memories from the prom. And fun party times,Picnics, holidays and such. But none are displayed. Only one was for my son's benefit.
A few things from an ex is alright. But I put them away. I have old pics. Book of memories from the prom. And fun party times,Picnics, holidays and such. But none are displayed. Only one was for my son's benefit.
Aw Raenna I didn't know you had a son. I bet you're an awesome mommy!!
I had a friend who dated a woman who's husband recently passed away. She not only kept her husbands personal belongings. She had my friend wear his clothes (which he agreed to do). Sad and creepy.
Maybe he just hasn't reorganized his stuff since she left.
I know if my husband and I ever split, he'd probably never clean out the bathroom cabinets or get rid of my stuff...he'd use it (the shampoo and toiletries...not the make-up!)...LOL
This one.
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, lol) and was suprised at the responses given. I had no idea so many people did NOT see this as a red flag. I just could not see myself comfortably dating a guy who still had his ex's belongings everywhere out in the open as if she still lived there, especially after 6 or more months had passed. 
I will fight to keep here you know!
