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Because when she made no reference to the date, I didn't either and made other plans
Why didn't you bring it up?
Sample convo:
She: Sorry I've been out of touch this week. My dad is in the hospital and it's been really stressful.
He: I'm so sorry to hear about your father. I'm sure that must be difficult for you.
She: Yes. We're very close.
He: I completely understand if you need to take a rain check on our plans for tomorrow night.
She: No! I need a night out to get my mind off things if that's okay with you.
He: Sure thing. I'm looking forward to it. Hope you sleep well. Have a good evening. I'll see you tomorrow at 7.
She: See you then!
If she'd said she really would like a rain check because she's exhausted from the week's events, the courteous thing to do is offer one.
Since you've never been out, it's awkward to call a relative stranger to discuss an ill family member.
It's not so odd that she wasn't in contact until Friday night. She was likely trying to touch base because she knew you two had plans.
Believe it or not, most women don't make plans, ignore a man on purpose, then show up for a free dinner.
If I couldn't be bothered to talk to a guy (provided I was free that week and not trying to attend a hospitalized parent), I damned sure wouldn't wanna waste my time getting dressed for dinner.
I think you made a big deal out of nothing.
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She: Sorry I've been out of touch this week. My dad is in the hospital and it's been really stressful.
He: I'm so sorry to hear about your father. I'm sure that must be difficult for you.
She: Yes. We're very close.
He: I completely understand if you need to take a rain check on our plans for tomorrow night.
She: No! I need a night out to get my mind off things if that's okay with you.
He: Sure thing. I'm looking forward to it. Hope you sleep well. Have a good evening. I'll see you tomorrow at 7.
She: See you then!
If she'd said she really would like a rain check because she's exhausted from the week's events, the courteous thing to do is offer one.
Since you've never been out, it's awkward to call a relative stranger to discuss an ill family member.
It's not so odd that she wasn't in contact until Friday night. She was likely trying to touch base because she knew you two had plans.
Believe it or not, most women don't make plans, ignore a man on purpose, then show up for a free dinner.
If I couldn't be bothered to talk to a guy (provided I was free that week and not trying to attend a hospitalized parent), I damned sure wouldn't wanna waste my time getting dressed for dinner.
I think you made a big deal out of nothing.
I guess since dating is always about games, I automatically thought she was lying when she sent the text so I didn't even bother to mention the date. I figure that she used a sick family member because the excuse a easy way out of a date because most people won't question it.
I guess since dating is always about games, I automatically thought she was lying when she sent the text so I didn't even bother to mention the date. I figure that she used a sick family member because the excuse a easy way out of a date because most people won't question it.
TVSG, I met a guy about the time my Aunt was coming to stay with me and told him so when he called me for a date. He, probably didn't believe me either, because he called me to go out several times that week and I told him the same thing. On the day she left he was ready to give up. Long story short I actually did have my Aunt at my home and he and I ended up dating for 3 years.
I gave him a break for persistence that wasn't really overboard and because he was funny.
I guess since dating is always about games, I automatically thought she was lying when she sent the text so I didn't even bother to mention the date. I figure that she used a sick family member because the excuse a easy way out of a date because most people won't question it.
But that's about YOU, not her. You assumed she was lying about her father's being sick. From this and your other posts, it looks like not only did you run this date into a ditch all by yourself, but that you're the one playing the games here, not the women.
But that's about YOU, not her. You assumed she was lying about her father's being sick. From this and your other posts, it looks like not only did you run this date into a ditch all by yourself, but that you're the one playing the games here, not the women.
What's even sadder (pathetic might be a better word) is that after deciding she was lying he blew her off without making any attempt to talk to her and then found out that her father was indeed sick. His loss, her definite gain.
What's even sadder (pathetic might be a better word) is that after deciding she was lying he blew her off without making any attempt to talk to her and then found out that her father was indeed sick. His loss, her definite gain.
You forgot, as his final creepy act toward the poor girl he asked her to play with him for money.
You forgot, as his final creepy act toward the poor girl he asked her to play with him for money.
I think I pushed it way into the recesses of my mind as the very thought of anyone suggesting something like that to anybody is just, well, revolting. One can sometimes forgive such crass behavior from a child but I'll never comprehend why a total misogynistic adult would bother to incessantly and repetitively spend so much time proving the point. Masochism perhaps?
Chicks use lame excuses with guys all the time and she was lax at communicating. Especially texting at 11pm the night before, lol....
The only problem is this time the excuse turned out to be real, which TVSG had no idea of knowing. I thought the monopoly joke was ballsy and funny, but knowing that her dad really was sick , it does look to be in poor taste.
Keep on looking man !
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