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Old 08-21-2012, 12:50 AM
Location: Southern California
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Originally Posted by DavieJ89 View Post
I'm 22 (23 in 4 months), I work a for a major grocery retailer in FL (guess who?) and am planning to work into management there (Job security, Financial security, stock options, retirement plans, 401k, etc)

As of right now though, I am earning $9.15 an hour and I work an average of 34 hours a week and I average about $280 (ranging between $250-$320) a week take home pay.

However, even though I live at home, I have a car payment, pay my own car insurance, groceries, gas, cell phone, and miscellaneous expenses so my leftover money is not enough for me to even have roommates. I'm left over with around $200 a month

So my question for young women is this. If you meet a guy who is about my age, but works, has career plans, but lives at home due to lack of money, would you still date him? Or would you only date men who have their own place or roommates?

I ask this question because I've been told that even at my age, as long as I'm living at home, nobody will date me
Seems normal to me for you to be living at home. I'll defer to the women regarding your questions in bold.

[when I was 22 I was living at home and working retail making $5.76/hour - this was in 1992]
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Old 08-21-2012, 07:40 AM
Location: Western Washington
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Originally Posted by Ro2113 View Post
At this point I'm starting to detect some undeserved jealousy. I'm pretty sure not everyone in your generation had this work schedule similar to how not everyone in our generation are a bunch of ne'er do-wells who sit on our butts playing video games. Besides you've derailed this thread enough.
LOL...there is no jealousy, none whatsoever! However, I also have zero sympathy for "how tough it is" on youngsters today, either. The OP wants to know if anyone wants to date a guy who's still living at home. All kinds of excuses got thrown out there about why so many young adults are living at home. I was responding to those "excuses". Okay, let's get back on track.

OP, are you still living like a teenage child? Is someone doing your laundry, cooking for you, cleaning for you, having to remind you you're going to be late for work? Are you being productive and pitching in when you're not at work? For sure, someone will be willing to date you, if you're still living with your mother, but unless you're actively working toward acting and living like a responsible adult, it's highly unlikely that the "right type" of young woman is going to stick around long, especially if you're still a child.
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Old 08-21-2012, 07:52 AM
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I wouldn't have a problem with it. Maybe because I am 26 and I live with my grandmother. She gives me a place to lay my head at night, and I drive her around since she doesn't have her license or a car. It's a give & take relationship.

I am also returning back to school since my major hasn't fared me too well.

A lot of men aren't interested in dating me because I live at home, but that's okay. There are plenty more out there who will.
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Old 08-21-2012, 08:12 AM
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Most woman would date a guy in his early 20's under this scenario

Late 20's though? No chance. Unless he was becoming a doctor and staying at home to save money
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Old 08-21-2012, 11:51 AM
Location: Las Vegas, NV
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Originally Posted by ChessieMom View Post
You pay your mom $200 a month for utilities? Yikes! How big is the house??

I can see paying something for utilities, but that seems high!
Well now see my mom isn't exactly the most responsible person, she'll blow off the bills until there is a shut off notice and then rush to pay them off, which often leaves my remaining money I'm desperately trying to save to those bills and more often than not, expensive cash advances are needed to pay the bills completely, and guess who's paying the interest on those now? I want to leave due to the irresponsibility and dysfunction that goes on in my house on a daily basis

Our electric bill even when it is up to date is around $200 a month anyway because I live in Florida and my sister (who is younger, makes MORE money than I do, and contributes $0 to the bills) like to keep the thermostat at 66 degrees. Well when its 97 degrees with 60%+ humidity every da that makes for a high electric bill and my mom does nothing about it

And for those who don't know the cost of living in Orlando, FL is too high for the rate that jobs pay here. The mean rent for a 1 bedroom apartment is around $850 a month, but the median wage in this town is $14 an hour, who can afford that? I've found some nice apartments in my area for around $600 a month and I live in a good area but I would STILL need a 2nd job to afford one

My expenses break down like this

Avg weekly paycheck $275 x 4 weeks = $1100 monthly take home income

-$240 for car payment

That leaves $860

-$90 car insurance (under mom's policy I pay my share)


-$280 combined total for gas and groceries ($70 a week for both combined at $35 each, I pay for my own food and gas for my car)


-$75 cell phone bill (I pay my own phone bill)


-$150 miscellaneous expenses

Leaves $265 a month I can save if I'm lucky

Yeah a 2nd job if I want my own place is deifnitely in order. In the meantime this is what I got to deal with?

So maybe a better question would be, would you date a man who pays his own bills but lives at home because he can't afford his own place?
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Old 08-21-2012, 12:12 PM
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I would say no. Only because I have had some NASTY experiences with mid 20 somethings living at home.
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