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Your stereotypical person who goes to the gym in Sydney, Australia is of very and I cannot stress this but very obnoxious nature.. They're annoying, stupid and think that they're god.. But too bad they simply are a bunch of sore losers who clearly punch way below their weight..
All illicit substance addicts and fake artificial body builders who are weaklings..
If you really know that they are losers, then do not even bother wasting your effort on then and just ignore them. Losers are not worth anyone of his/her time. Just hit the gym with the knowledge that you will end up being better than them. Right now you are just searching for a reason not to hit the gym.
Perhaps they're hesitant because if a woman shows ANY sort of friendliness to a man, all of a sudden she 'wants him' and that opens the door to many advances she may not want. I have plenty of stories from girlfriends of mine (and a few from myself) where they are simply nice to a man and all of a sudden he starts showing up at her workplace, finds her address, shows up at her house etc etc. It's not romantic, it's creepy.
If I'm interested in a man I'll make a move. If I'm not, I'll probably be a little cold to ward off possible unwanted advances.
This is why I'm glad that I'm married and have been for so long.
Everyone gives signals differently, and interperets them differently. As hard as it is for women, and we have the added danger of a creepy predator/stalker type, I'm glad I'm not a man...trying to read women to see if I have a "chance" would be infuriating to me.
I was always subtle but direct. If I liked a guy just as a friend, I was just friendly/funny. If I was interested in more, I usually added a flirtiness to the friendly/funny routine...
It goes both ways for men and women. Be alouf and not show enough attention and you are looked at as a b*tch or an ass. Show too much attention and you are needy, creepy or clingy. Both are undesirable and there is always a fine line between the two everyone seems to have to walk.
the fine line between bravery and stupidity -- go figure. same is for dating.
if men and women had some kind of universal color code or something, things would have been a lot more simple, but it would completely take away the game / challenge aspect of it, which will only make it half the fun...
Do you think I like them... ? The trick for me was to go from a private city gym to a college gym... more athletes and people who are focused on getting in and getting out. Its not full of douches who take place and socialise. Still, there are some obnoxious individuals that are there sometimes... my trick is to put on music and focus on my program. I look at these guys and I tell myself '' I am better than them. '' and it helps me get fuel to train even harder. I laugh at them in my head.
To be honest with you man I think one of the best decision any male who is having problem with women could make is to go to the gym. People talk about the physical benefits all the time but they forget about the mental benefits. I won't talk too much about them, I am sure you are smart enough to figure that out.
I couldnt agree more. You get enormous physical and mental benefits from working out on regular basis. On surface it may seem that you end up only looking better, but in reality your health improves and your self-confidence skyrockets, which is an incredible advamntage in the dating world. If you dont like the gym environment, you can get yourself a set of p90x dvds and get ripped at home, without ever having to step a foot in a conventional gym itself.
Perhaps they're hesitant because if a woman shows ANY sort of friendliness to a man, all of a sudden she 'wants him' and that opens the door to many advances she may not want. I have plenty of stories from girlfriends of mine (and a few from myself) where they are simply nice to a man and all of a sudden he starts showing up at her workplace, finds her address, shows up at her house etc etc. It's not romantic, it's creepy.
If I'm interested in a man I'll make a move. If I'm not, I'll probably be a little cold to ward off possible unwanted advances.
This is 100% true.
I can't tell you how many times being simply polite and friendly has garnered me a lot of unwanted attention. I am not going to stop being polite and friendly, but it makes me think that the only reason a lot of guys bother to have manners is to 'get some.'
As for being truly attracted to a guy...hell, yeah, I would let them know (provided they were not married, etc).
They like bad-ass A-holes.. Who aren't really as bad as they think they are..
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I think that it's more along the lines of a guy that has the appearance of being a bad boy but one who isn't really a bad boy.
Yes please. These are the guys I'm all about.
As for the introverted/extroverted thing... I don't think it can be based on looks. I'm friendly if someone approaches me, but I do give off the "stay away" vibe. You have to come over to figure that out.
Perhaps they're hesitant because if a woman shows ANY sort of friendliness to a man, all of a sudden she 'wants him' and that opens the door to many advances she may not want. I have plenty of stories from girlfriends of mine (and a few from myself) where they are simply nice to a man and all of a sudden he starts showing up at her workplace, finds her address, shows up at her house etc etc. It's not romantic, it's creepy.
If I'm interested in a man I'll make a move. If I'm not, I'll probably be a little cold to ward off possible unwanted advances.
BINGO!!!!! OMG, I've been married for nearly 31 years and I STILL run into that kind of malarky! Just because someone is nice to you, it doesn't mean that they're "into you". Just because someone is stand-offish, it doesn't mean that they're NOT into you. It might just means that they don't KNOW enough about you to trust you!
I'm 19, in college, and while I have in the past made an effort to let a guy know I'm interested, what typically happens when I do that is that he assumes I'm interested in having SEX with him. It has gotten to the point of absurdity...while many of my peers (both male and female) have no problem sleeping with just about anyone, that is 180 degrees from the type of person I am. So, I have reached the point where I definitely keep to myself, and focus on school, and my friends.
Take sex out of the equation, and see if it makes a difference in how you are perceived, and what type of women you attract. Just my two cents worth.
Hah - because apparently if she shows she's into you then she makes herself too available, may come off as desperate, and isn't playing the game correctly. I have to admit it does seem to be true sometimes. Guys want what they cannot have. If you're too open and available it seems like they don't want you.
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OMG, I've been married for nearly 31 years and I STILL run into that kind of malarky! Just because someone is nice to you, it doesn't mean that they're "into you". Just because someone is stand-offish, it doesn't mean that they're NOT into you. It might just means that they don't KNOW enough about you to trust you!
