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After he proposed to me last Christmas( We've in distance relationship for 2 years)I moved and transferred college from California to a small town in Ohio to be with him. We got an apartment together( the lease was on his name) I got so excited for having my fairytale wedding!!! I bought a huge sectional couch , bed , kitchen table, dishes. It cost me all 3000$. A couple weeks later, He started treating me bad.Every time he get angry , he start telling me bad and mean words. He yelled at me and threaten to take keep all my furniture and make me out . He even started sending dirty text to girls. I couldn't live anymore with him , so I moved back to CA. However, before I leave his apartment , I cut the couch the Mattress and I throw everything I bought in the garbage ( I know it is crazy but it I didn't want him to use it)
After , I left Ohio, he got angry that I cut the couch , he got everything I through out from the garbage , he even fix the couch and the bed. he is a mama's boy. His mother sent me mean texts ( I did nothing bad to her , I always respected her) he talked bad shiit about me to his friends. It hurt me so much because I loved him so much.
Now he wanna get back with me , I still love him so much but IM worried to get hurt and I dnt wanna have have a long distance relationship again. I wish he could move and live with me in CA , treat me good and make me feel special. Now he is contacting me and telling me sweet words and i just descover he is on dating website . i feel like he is usng me for company .
I feel so sad and alone now .I never been hurt so much in my life and i don't know what to do
After he proposed to me last Christmas( We've in distance relationship for 2 years)I moved and transferred college from California to a small town in Ohio to be with him. We got an apartment together( the lease was on his name) I got so excited for having my fairytale wedding!!! I bought a huge sectional couch , bed , kitchen table, dishes. It cost me all 3000$. A couple weeks later, He started treating me bad.Every time he get angry , he start telling me bad and mean words. He yelled at me and threaten to take keep all my furniture and make me out . He even started sending dirty text to girls. I couldn't live anymore with him , so I moved back to CA. However, before I leave his apartment , I cut the couch the Mattress and I throw everything I bought in the garbage ( I know it is crazy but it I didn't want him to use it)
After , I left Ohio, he got angry that I cut the couch , he got everything I through out from the garbage , he even fix the couch and the bed. he is a mama's boy. His mother sent me mean texts ( I did nothing bad to her , I always respected her) he talked bad shiit about me to his friends. It hurt me so much because I loved him so much.
Now he wanna get back with me , I still love him so much but IM worried to get hurt and I dnt wanna have have a long distance relationship again. I wish he could move and live with me in CA , treat me good and make me feel special. Now he is contacting me and telling me sweet words and i just descover he is on dating website . i feel like he is usng me for company .
I feel so sad and alone now .I never been hurt so much in my life and i don't know what to do
If this is how you all get along before the wedding, how do you think you are going to get along AFTER the wedding?
Getting married isn't some magic pill to a happy ending.
And this: I got so excited for having my fairytale wedding!!!
Well...I would think the excitment would come from marrying the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. You are too focused on "things"...the furniture and such. It sounds like you have given more thought to those things and playing house, than to your actual partner.
My opinion, you both need to grow up a little bit before you even entertain a life-long commitment.
He's not the person you thought he was. Tell him to stop contacting you, or just change your email address and your phone number. No more long-distance relationships. No more rushing into marriage. (Long engagements of a year or more exist for a reason.) Finish school first, get a job, be independent for awhile. Then see if you can find someone who is nice to people, and who you can get to know gradually over time, seeing them regularly. In long-distance relationships, it's too easy to let your imagination fill in the blanks when you don't know the person well.
He had his chance. You took a huge risk and moved across country to be with a guy that turned out to be a completely different person than you thought he was. It cost you time, money, and heartache. You have given this guy all he deserves. It's time to move on, and find someone that will treat you right.
He had his chance. You took a huge risk and moved across country to be with a guy that turned out to be a completely different person than you thought he was. It cost you time, money, and heartache. You have given this guy all he deserves. It's time to move on, and find someone that will treat you right.
Exactly.
And why do I have a sinking feeling she used some of her student loan money to buy all that furniture and finance her move?
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