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As I prepare myself to pay off my alimony to my ex-husband who...well let's not re-live the past. Usher's defeated expression in the following ad is telling...as he is ordered by a court to re-open his EX-wife's Sax 5th avenue credit card.
When it comes right down to it, a judge can make you do what you are willing to do on your own. You can't get blood out of a turnip and a judge can't make you don anything you don't want to do. If he took a leave of absence and quite work for a year, I don't think there is anything they could do except put him in jail and he won't be making any money in jail.
Lets try and remember that judges are supposed to be fair...most of them take their jobs very seriously and can only make findings under the law...it's the law that may need changing, not necessarily those who work with it.
The judge will also know details we do not.
They don't take kindly on someone who is trying to cry poor and shirk their responsibilites.
OP I agree totally with you...too many people think "love" is all they need when they enter marriage...they then expect a third party to sort it all out for them afterwards.
If you marry someone you are becoming ONE LEGAL ENTITY in the eyes of the law. You are literally two halves of the whole...therefore, she gets half your money and vice versa. It's part of the deal. If you don't want to hand him/her your cash card, DON'T GET MARRIED.
Don't be scared. You need to know yourself. That's it.
If you are honest with yourself about what you want and, more importantly, what you DON'T want, you will do a better job of choosing a partner for marriage.
If you go into it worried about your money and full of fear about what your partner will do with "your" stuff, you should LISTEN to your instincts and rethink your decision.
It's YOUR life. Want marriage? Great. Know what you're doing.
Want to stay single? Fine. Know what that means too.
Don't place false deadlines on your life, like "by the time I'm 30" or "Well, I'll probably never meet a nicer guy than him ...." That's the first step toward a bad decision. If you do it right, life is long, with many opportunities to "match up' with someone.
But using celebrities as examples of how to do ANYTHING is useless. Their experiences are so far from the norm that they won't help any of us.
Don't be scared. You need to know yourself. That's it.
If you are honest with yourself about what you want and, more importantly, what you DON'T want, you will do a better job of choosing a partner for marriage.
If you go into it worried about your money and full of fear about what your partner will do with "your" stuff, you should LISTEN to your instincts and rethink your decision.
It's YOUR life. Want marriage? Great. Know what you're doing.
Want to stay single? Fine. Know what that means too.
Don't place false deadlines on your life, like "by the time I'm 30" or "Well, I'll probably never meet a nicer guy than him ...." That's the first step toward a bad decision. If you do it right, life is long, with many opportunities to "match up' with someone.
But using celebrities as examples of how to do ANYTHING is useless. Their experiences are so far from the norm that they won't help any of us.
I kind of laugh when I hear some men complaining. SOME like the idea of marrying a woman who is dependent on them, someone they have some control over, someone who makes less money than they. Then there is the divorce, which happens to about half of us, and the guy feels she's taking him to the cleaners.
There is a reason why wealthy people prefer to hang with and marry other wealthy people, and this is one of them. Even prenups have been broken.
Marry someone in your category - someone who earns as much as you do. Preferably, encourage them to continue working, even when kids arrive. It is the honest thing to do. This way, you are more likely to stay friends in spite of a divorce because the courts will probably just divide the estate in half and all you'll have to argue over is shared custody. The kids will be happier knowing that you're friends.
Don't be scared. You need to know yourself. That's it.
If you are honest with yourself about what you want and, more importantly, what you DON'T want, you will do a better job of choosing a partner for marriage.
If you go into it worried about your money and full of fear about what your partner will do with "your" stuff, you should LISTEN to your instincts and rethink your decision.
It's YOUR life. Want marriage? Great. Know what you're doing.
Want to stay single? Fine. Know what that means too.
Don't place false deadlines on your life, like "by the time I'm 30" or "Well, I'll probably never meet a nicer guy than him ...." That's the first step toward a bad decision. If you do it right, life is long, with many opportunities to "match up' with someone.
But using celebrities as examples of how to do ANYTHING is useless. Their experiences are so far from the norm that they won't help any of us.
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Usher's defeated expression in the following ad is telling...as he is ordered by a court to re-open his EX-wife's Sax 5th avenue credit card.
