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Old 08-23-2012, 12:16 AM
 
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Hi, Let me short introduce myself. I'm a Virgo guy who is 30 years old and I'm single. Recently just join a company working for a few months there. I just join in the company on March 2012. I had a crush on my superior which is my manager. She is a Capricorn who is 31 years old, a wisdom & pretty type of girl and with a lovely cute daughter which is just 4 years old. When the first time I join the company, she was so warm treating me and quite often she bring me morning break first. Sometimes she drop me the nearest LRT station and once she give me a ride while she saw me walking from the station to company. I mean she is really that nice as I describe and she is the one who interview me. As my first impression to her is she is a nice hardworking woman and dedicated herself to the company. She was someone I can see the future because she can handle things like guys do and she got the some feature what I want too. I was think is if she is single would be nice since we first met. But later on got found out she married, well a little upset I am. So she must be some lucky guy who owned her. Well as usual, we can’t avoid some gossip in the office. So what I’ve heard is her husband went to China for his career as lounge bar manager after she gave a birth and I heard her early before marriage life and after marriage life that her husband not treat her caring and well. Some of their friend who knew them longtime ago claimed that her husband is not kind of family guy who love kids and he got other girl friends at his working place. I heard that sometimes she is crying in the office alone at few years back. After all the hearing gossip myself just telling me she need to be care and love. After that about a month or so I just asking her to church as only god can help her. At first I just tell her to go her own but she said she don’t know the church address locate which is nearby her area. So I decided to bring her to my church, that is our first going out together and the first time I met her lovely daughter. This is how we start.
We went out together with her daughter a few times ever since. We went to park, movie, shopping and her house and even I celebrating her daughter’s birthday in her house. But all I can say is we went out not so often times but like twice a month. Because she is not someone who is going out easily. In the office she always staring at me and the way she talk is calm when talking to me and her eyes is opened wide. Some body language like her hair place all a side and show her neck. Well I assumed she is flirting me, So I decided about 2 months ago I start telling her what I feel inside about her on the phone at night. I tell her that I would not mind to have a girl friend or wife which owned a daughter. I tell her that I really love her daughter so much as her daughter and I always very close since the first time we’ve met. I love her daughter as her daughter love me. I told her I wouldn’t care if someone gossip me in our relationship. But I taught after my confess would melt her. But her answer is We are impossible. She understand all the message that I deliver and still impossible. Well as we are company official colleague, the next day we still having a good talk as I think I wouldn’t care too much even she say no. I mean most of the girl say no, but who knows their inside say yes. That’s what I think and to keep me not giving up. I did kiss her in the office early morning in the sudden (just two of us). I said to her “I’m gonna make you a joke”, Then I just kiss her cheek, she avoid me but I reach her cheek after second try. She ask me “is this a joke”. Well I answer her “No, I’m Serious”. She seem so angry at first but later I sense that is she happy inside. But later all of this slowly she ignore my call, refuse to go out, even she change the church we used to go. So All I want to know is that what she felt? Her mouth say no but her body language say yes. Am I getting wrong impression or what? Please I need help and I’m planning to resign because I may got better offer not because of the personal matter. But seriously, I just wanna know What this woman want and could we possible together? Thank You

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Old 08-23-2012, 12:21 AM
 
Location: Southern California
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Should I chase a married woman with one kid(daughter)
I don't have to read any of that to tell you the answer.

[no]
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Old 08-23-2012, 12:23 AM
 
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^^^ x2
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Old 08-23-2012, 12:27 AM
 
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No.
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Old 08-23-2012, 01:39 AM
 
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If she's hot, do it. If not, don't do it. If she's a psycho, run as fast as you can and hide your bunnies and pots.
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Old 08-23-2012, 01:51 AM
 
Location: Ohio
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Wow okay ...

First her being married aside, having a personal relationship with someone at work is almost always a very bad idea.

Most places have a policy against a person having a "relationship" with or being related to their supervisors AND vise versa.


Most people couldn't care less about birth signs, but you point it out like it is a physical description.

You talk about church and adultery in the same paragraph.

“I’m gonna make you a joke”
what does that even mean? If someone said that to me I would be offended and any relationship with that person would end.


I do not really believe you are in the your thirties, your wording is that of a teenager.

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Old 08-23-2012, 02:35 AM
 
Location: Anchorage, Alaska
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I do hope English isn't your first language because if it is you have some other problems to deal with.

I didn't sit and read that entire, ridiculous wall of text but I can give you the answer based on the title of your post:

NO!!

Have I made myself clear?

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Old 08-23-2012, 02:38 AM
 
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Hi, Let me short introduce myself. I'm a Virgo guy who is 30 years old and I'm single. Recently just join a company working for a few months there. I just join in the company on March 2012. I had a crush on my superior which is my manager. She is a Capricorn who is 31 years old, a wisdom & pretty type of girl and with a lovely cute daughter which is just 4 years old. When the first time I join the company, she was so warm treating me and quite often she bring me morning break first. Sometimes she drop me the nearest LRT station and once she give me a ride while she saw me walking from the station to company. I mean she is really that nice as I describe and she is the one who interview me. As my first impression to her is she is a nice hardworking woman and dedicated herself to the company. She was someone I can see the future because she can handle things like guys do and she got the some feature what I want too. I was think is if she is single would be nice since we first met. But later on got found out she married, well a little upset I am. So she must be some lucky guy who owned her. Well as usual, we can’t avoid some gossip in the office. So what I’ve heard is her husband went to China for his career as lounge bar manager after she gave a birth and I heard her early before marriage life and after marriage life that her husband not treat her caring and well. Some of their friend who knew them longtime ago claimed that her husband is not kind of family guy who love kids and he got other girl friends at his working place. I heard that sometimes she is crying in the office alone at few years back. After all the hearing gossip myself just telling me she need to be care and love. After that about a month or so I just asking her to church as only god can help her. At first I just tell her to go her own but she said she don’t know the church address locate which is nearby her area. So I decided to bring her to my church, that is our first going out together and the first time I met her lovely daughter. This is how we start.
We went out together with her daughter a few times ever since. We went to park, movie, shopping and her house and even I celebrating her daughter’s birthday in her house. But all I can say is we went out not so often times but like twice a month. Because she is not someone who is going out easily. In the office she always staring at me and the way she talk is calm when talking to me and her eyes is opened wide. Some body language like her hair place all a side and show her neck. Well I assumed she is flirting me, So I decided about 2 months ago I start telling her what I feel inside about her on the phone at night. I tell her that I would not mind to have a girl friend or wife which owned a daughter. I tell her that I really love her daughter so much as her daughter and I always very close since the first time we’ve met. I love her daughter as her daughter love me. I told her I wouldn’t care if someone gossip me in our relationship. But I taught after my confess would melt her. But her answer is We are impossible. She understand all the message that I deliver and still impossible. Well as we are company official colleague, the next day we still having a good talk as I think I wouldn’t care too much even she say no. I mean most of the girl say no, but who knows their inside say yes. That’s what I think and to keep me not giving up. I did kiss her in the office early morning in the sudden (just two of us). I said to her “I’m gonna make you a joke”, Then I just kiss her cheek, she avoid me but I reach her cheek after second try. She ask me “is this a joke”. Well I answer her “No, I’m Serious”. She seem so angry at first but later I sense that is she happy inside. But later all of this slowly she ignore my call, refuse to go out, even she change the church we used to go. So All I want to know is that what she felt? Her mouth say no but her body language say yes. Am I getting wrong impression or what? Please I need help and I’m planning to resign because I may got better offer not because of the personal matter. But seriously, I just wanna know What this woman want and could we possible together? Thank You

There are a lot of words used that did not need to be used since your title says it all. The short answer is NO, YOU SHOULD NOT EVER CHASE A MARRIED WOMAN. Leave her alone and keep your feelings to yourself.
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Old 08-23-2012, 05:51 AM
 
Location: Virginia Beach, VA
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OP, you are walking on thin ice. You don't know that the rumors about her husband are true. Even if she has shared stories about him, you don't know them to be true. It's easy to say something. Even is she has told you stories, you only have her side of the story and who knows if it is true or not? What is true is that she is a married woman, and a co-worker (and from the sound of it, a manager in a position over you), so all signs indicate to keep your relationship with her strictly professional. You may have blown it with your little kiss on the cheek stunt.

Also, you mentioned going to church. I don't know your affiliation, but I believe most churches would frown upon your further pursuing of this woman. If you really have any doubt about it, I suggest a meeting with your pastor. Aside from his sound advice, talking about it may help you get this off your chest and therefore make it easier for you to move on.

Lastly, if you got a better job offer, it may be a good way to distance yourself from the situation. Jump on it. Good luck to you and keep your nose clean!
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Old 08-23-2012, 05:55 AM
 
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And you take her to your church too? What kind of church you do you belong to which encourages men to chase married women?
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