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There must be great natural inner and outer beauty if the person you are attracted too..There is nothing wrong with that- I am sure you fall in love with a great sun set or a beautiful child .... It is good to be attracted to that which is good...don't let the weirdo jerks drag you down and sexualize this attraction...enjoy.
I'm not really concerned about labeling myself. I just thought I could spend a couple of months being a lesbian. I can stop dating men during that time and focus on women. I usually meet men online but the lesbian pickings are awfully slim on the sites I'm currently on. I don't expect a lesbian to just fall into my lap, so I'd have to actively look for one. Also, I'd only be looking for lesbians and not bisexual women.
I'm straight, but I can tell you this: When a straight friend of mine dated a woman, the woman's friends (ie, the "lesbian community") did not receive it well. They made it very difficult for my friend and treated her like an outcast.
You know why? They couldn't stand the whole "I wanna try being gay" thing. They felt it made a mockery of who they were as people, because it is so fake and manipulative. Now, see, my friend was with this woman for nearly two years, so it wasn't just an experiment or a phase. They really did love one another. But with so many women pretending to be bi or gay for show because it's trendy and/or will attract the attention of idiotic horndog-type men, surely you can see how the friends of any woman you date could view you with suspicion.
And honestly? I think they'd be right. I believe sexuality is fluid, and very few people are entirely hetero- or homosexual their whole lives. But you're treating it like something to try on like a pair of jeans. No woman in her right mind is going to go near that unless it's purely sexual, and I can't blame them. What is "curiosity" to you could mean falling in love and getting hurt to them.
So if you do date women, be prepared to be seen like an object yourself until you are comfortable enough with who and what you are to say, definitively, "yes, I like women" or "yes, I like both men and women." That may not seem fair if you are genuinely struggling with coming to terms with your sexuality, but somehow, I don't get the feeling that there is a whole lot of sincerity here. I could be wrong, but I get the sense that this is just something for you to do, particularly as you are callous enough to actually look for a surrogate for the girl you once had a crush on. If that is not objectifying a human being, I don't know what is.
Yes, but that doesn't mean I have to do it unless I decide to become a lesbian for real.
This is exactly what I mean.
So, you're just going to play around and jerk people's chains while you decide if you can stomach the thought of munching carpet?
Please, do women--and men--a favor and don't date anyone until you grow up a bit. People aren't on this earth to be your lab rats.
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