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yeah i know he really loved me and cared for me. but...i just wasn't that into him...i wasnt in love with him and couldnt make myself take that step forward to make the relationship more..."real" :\
It has kinda been discussed, but this right here is the answer. Eventually the guy realized this, conciously or subconciously, and he got frustrated, angry, and finally 'done'. Others have said that it was wrong (it was!), but as for why he didn't "stick", it's because it was already over in your mind.
I find it a bit disconcerting that you post a subject asking why the guys are not into you, yet you readily admit you weren't into him. A bit egocentric, don't you think?
As for the sex, I'll disagree with the others. And my background is that right now in my life, I'm all about the sex. I'm totally down with "just having fun", and all about "getting laid". That being said, I value good people in my life, and I'm pretty sure that if I met someone who wanted to take things REALLY slow, I'd be OK with it as long as they were TOTALLY open and honest. (They'd better not get pissed off at me when they catch me "releasing my tension" alone though!!!). I don't know about seven months at this stage in my life (mid forties), but all these guys that are saying "within the first few dates", I disagree.
I'm totally willing to take the time to get to know the right person, but they'd better be 100% honest with me, and better be making a lot of effort too. (Otherwise it would be no better than me persuing them, a virgin, whilst secretly off fvcking a bunch of loose ladies to get my rocks off..) Honesty goes both ways.
Sorry OP, I think you need to learn to be more honest, and I think you need to be open. Good news or bad, you have to communicate. Bottom line!
If you aren't going to have sex until marriage, make sure the men you date understand you, & feel the same way...
As someone who feels this way (waiting until marriage), I could not agree more. It's always a little awkward, but I definitely bring this up early on with anyone I'm dating. I've never had a negative response. If a guy doesn't want to date you because of your desire to save sex for marriage, he's not worth your time, since that is something you strongly believe in.
what the hell year is it, 1954? men are not interested in vanilla dating, while millions of girls are out there ready and waiting. good luck catching all the omegas and settling for "respectful" mediocrity of the gene pool. high moral standards my ass...
Firstly, I think it's honorable that you want to wait until marriage to have sex.
However I do agree with the posters that said that if you sleep in their bed a Man will expect for you to "start sizzling sister". lol!
It's going to be difficult in this sexed-up day and age to find what you seek but not impossible. You'll have to learn to be extremely patient in finding a date that will share your wishes.
Maybe put yourself out there on dating sites being very clear and explicit.
I don't know if you follow a faith (and I don't want to know here) but I know that there's Catholic and Christian personal ad sites that you might find a man there who shares the same you seek.
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Of course the guy's going to leave after 7 months of no sex. Why were you even dating him? If you enjhoyed his company that much, you probably would have enjoyed sex with him. Part of being an adult is realizing that you're not going to be turned on all the time, but that doesn't stop sex from being fun.
Why are you waiting for marriage anyway? Any REAL reason? It's such a silly thing unless you're very religious, in which case you should date an equally religious person.
And guy number 3 you quickly overstepped your bounds (freaking out just because he had a bad day and didn't want to go on a date), and then wonder why he didn't want to see you again?
Date virgins. That's your answer. Short and sweet. Stop stinging men along and find yourself a man who expects nothing from you sexually...and for everyone's sale, if you are truly a virgin...STOP SPENDING THE NIGHT WITH MEN.
what the hell year is it, 1954? men are not interested in vanilla dating, while millions of girls are out there ready and waiting. good luck catching all the omegas and settling for "respectful" mediocrity of the gene pool. high moral standards my ass...
Well I guess she could get knock up by some dead beat and become a single mom. would that be better?
Hooly cow. If a woman stays in my bed with me, I'm gettin' something. Doesn't have to necessarily be sex, but something's gonna happen.
I'm a woman, and if I were staying in a guy's bed, *I* was expecting something too!
OP, do you "fool around" at all? Make out, foreplay, etc?
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I don't know about seven months at this stage in my life (mid forties), but all these guys that are saying "within the first few dates", I disagree.
