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All of you people are really mean. I've simply come on this forum to ask for advice. I'm not pinpointing anything other than trying to work out to see why men don't commit to women in any LTR. I have worked hard to pursue men and find their interest, support them in their cause, and be their friend, but I never get any of that respect in return. So sorry for even posting this question. I had no idea I would be receiving posts from losers. I end up arguing here more than seeking answers. You people must be really hung up and bitter even being on here posting instead out there with a life on a Monday.
So sad.
I'm leaving this as is. I guess I can look for answers elsewhere where people are actually mature.
All of you people are really mean. I've simply come on this forum to ask for advice. I'm not pinpointing anything other than trying to work out to see why men don't commit to women in any LTR. I have worked hard to pursue men and find their interest, support them in their cause, and be their friend, but I never get any of that respect in return. So sorry for even posting this question. I had no idea I would be receiving posts from losers. I end up arguing here more than seeking answers. You people must be really hung up and bitter even being on here posting instead out there with a life on a Monday.
So sad.
I'm leaving this as is. I guess I can look for answers elsewhere where people are actually mature.
Re-read this post and you will find your answer. Attitude is everything. Would you want to spend long term time with someone like yourself. From the post you wrote above, you would be nothing but a repellant to me.
All of you people are really mean. I've simply come on this forum to ask for advice. I'm not pinpointing anything other than trying to work out to see why men don't commit to women in any LTR. I have worked hard to pursue men and find their interest, support them in their cause, and be their friend, but I never get any of that respect in return. So sorry for even posting this question. I had no idea I would be receiving posts from losers. I end up arguing here more than seeking answers. You people must be really hung up and bitter even being on here posting instead out there with a life on a Monday.
So sad.
I'm leaving this as is. I guess I can look for answers elsewhere where people are actually mature.
Wow, so you post on a public forum and ask for opinions, then get upset when people give them?
Honestly, the problem is you. Is it because you haven't heard what you wanted from everyone who replied, and said that all the men you date aren't at fault?
Like I've posted numerous times before, I've deducted the problem is me as well. I've always been the type attracted to men with nice cars and cushy jobs. These guys know many women fawn over them so they believe they can treat women any kind of way. One was even physically and mentally abusive. He would always taunt me over the fact I drive a KIA, and even though his Mercedes Benz was repo'd, he at least had one. When we broke up and he won a settlement, he even sent me pictures of the checks. It was hard not to respond (because God know's I wanted to tell him to leave me alone) but I mustered up enough confidence to do so.
You have honestly got to figure out yourself. Why are you attracting these types of men? Why you aren't in a LTR right now? Am I only attracted to a man because of what he can do for me?
It's not easy to look yourself in the mirror. But if you want a great relationship with a great man, then you are going to have to.
Basically, like everyone else said, it has nothing to do with age. Like attracts like.
Wow, so you post on a public forum and ask for opinions, then get upset when people give them?
Honestly, the problem is you. Is it because you haven't heard what you wanted from everyone who replied, and said that all the men you date aren't at fault?
Like I've posted numerous times before, I've deducted the problem is me as well. I've always been the type attracted to men with nice cars and cushy jobs. These guys know many women fawn over them so they believe they can treat women any kind of way. One was even physically and mentally abusive. He would always taunt me over the fact I drive a KIA, and even though his Mercedes Benz was repo'd, he at least had one. When we broke up and he won a settlement, he even sent me pictures of the checks. It was hard not to respond (because God know's I wanted to tell him to leave me alone) but I mustered up enough confidence to do so.
You have honestly got to figure out yourself. Why are you attracting these types of men? Why you aren't in a LTR right now? Am I only attracted to a man because of what he can do for me?
It's not easy to look yourself in the mirror. But if you want a great relationship with a great man, then you are going to have to.
Basically, like everyone else said, it has nothing to do with age. Like attracts like.
Most women are attracted to men with cushy jobs and good money. I don't know not one woman that isn't. I think it's natural to some extent for a woman to seek men like this, so I don't think the OP is wrong if she is attracted to men that are financially well off. However, like you stated these particular men tend to either settle down early and usually before their career picks up(i.e. they get married to college sweethearts, or to the first girl they meet while they are coming up), and the ones that haven't gotten married by the time they've reached their career peak tend to have access to a large quantity of women and like you said can(not all do) treat women a certain type of way, or get away with not committing. But what should the OP do, seek men that don't have cushy jobs or nice incomes?
I heard this saying before told to me: You just got to find the right guy. He's too young and all he wants is sex.
Well guys what age for you was the right time you felt to start a relationship with a woman? And most importantly what was it that made you want one?
I met so many guys who don't even seem to want to commit and either just want to stay friends or don't even care and I stop to think why do they even bother going out with girls?
So guys tell me why do you even bother in a relationships?
I was 17 and decided that being with her meant more to me than breathing. We dated for 2 years and have been married for 20.
OP I remember from another thread you stated that you tend to date men that are in the 26-30 age range. You are 38. Maybe you should try to date men that are in a similar age bracket? You say you've dated a variety of men and none of them committed, and yet you think the problem is the men and not yourself? Either these men really aren't as varied as you think and they have some common characteristic that you are overlooking, or the problem really is you. Either way something isn't right. You need to really assess the qualities you are looking for in men, and assess yourself and be open to feedback and criticism, because ultimately if you really have dated a large quantity of men and the same issue keeps happening then you are really overlooking something.
All of you people are really mean. I've simply come on this forum to ask for advice. I'm not pinpointing anything other than trying to work out to see why men don't commit to women in any LTR. I have worked hard to pursue men and find their interest, support them in their cause, and be their friend, but I never get any of that respect in return. So sorry for even posting this question. I had no idea I would be receiving posts from losers. I end up arguing here more than seeking answers. You people must be really hung up and bitter even being on here posting instead out there with a life on a Monday.
So sad.
I'm leaving this as is. I guess I can look for answers elsewhere where people are actually mature.
Again you sound like every other guy here that can't find a date and get laid and they get the same advice you're getting. Do you sympathize with them or would you tell them the same thing we've told you?
Never had a problem with men committing. Actually had 2 propose that I politely turned down. My guess...you reek of desperate 38 y/o who needs to pinpoint, label, define a relationship as long term and men are deterred by it.
^Or she just calls them all losers the moment they don't tell her exactly what she wants to hear. I would think that's problematic.
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